This man has a 17-year-old daughter, and she’s only known and been dating her boyfriend, who is 19, for eight months. Yet, she is already engaged, and his daughter plans on getting married when she turns 18-years-old in two months.
Apparently, his daughter’s now-fiancé still lives with his single mother in a two-bedroom apartment. So, after tying the knot, his daughter’s plan is to move in with her fiancé and his mother.
His daughter is not currently going to college, either. Instead, he said his daughter’s only goal is to “be a wife.”
“If she actually had career goals, she wouldn’t be getting married so quickly,” he said.
“It makes me sad, though, that she has no ambitions or dreams like other kids her age. Her only dream is to be a ‘wife.'”
Anyway, his daughter had been receiving $200 per month as an allowance, which covered the cost of her clothing, car insurance, and gas.
“And currently, I pay for her phone bill, food, and other necessities,” he added, “But she is going to be on her own for that when she moves out.”
More specifically, he told his daughter that after she gets married and moves out, he will no longer be providing her with an allowance anymore.
In his mind, married women should not be financially reliant on their parents. Not to mention, his daughter will encounter a lot more expenses when she isn’t living at home– bills that her allowance wouldn’t even begin to cover.
So, he realizes that his daughter will likely need to get a full-time job, and if she decides to go through with her nuptials, he thinks that’s only fair.
“An allowance is a luxury. Most people don’t receive an allowance beyond the age of 14,” he reasoned.
“Once you are married, you are no longer a dependent, and you should not receive an allowance from your parents.”
He claimed that his decision to stop giving his daughter an allowance has nothing to do with whether or not he disapproves of her marriage, either.
Rather, he just believes that once people are married, they are adults and should be “treated like one.”
“It will be her husband’s job to support her, not mine. That’s what marriage is for. I will be essentially transferring responsibility to him,” he explained.
“And if she wants to continue getting an ‘allowance,’ she can always ask her husband for one.”
Still, ever since refusing to give his daughter any more money after she gets married and moves out, he’s been left wondering if that was really the wrong thing to do.
Do you agree that his daughter shouldn’t continue receiving an allowance after moving out? What would you do if you were her parent?
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By Katharina Buczek
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