This guy and his girlfriend have been official for about eight months now, and when they first began dating, he made it crystal clear that he was searching for a partner with whom he could travel and go on adventures.
His girlfriend claimed to be searching for the same thing, too, which is why he got really excited.
Since becoming exclusive, they’ve planned a long trip– which they’re set to go on in March. In addition to that, he and his girlfriend had also discussed going on a smaller trip next July.
“A few suggestions were made by both of us,” he recalled, “But we agreed to look at it properly when we come home from our trip in March.”
Yet, over the past month, his girlfriend has been planning a trip in July anyway, and he just assumed that they would both be going on it.
Well, that was until he finally asked his girlfriend for more information about the trip, and she informed him that she was thinking of going away for two weeks by herself. Then, she wanted him to travel out for the last two days of her vacation to meet up with her.
He was confused, too, and asked why his girlfriend wanted to go away on a solo trip. But, she claimed to simply think it was a good idea.
“I feel like this is a trip you do alone, having the freedom of not having to answer to people and meet new people,” she responded.
He tried to bring up the fact that they’d planned to go on a mini trip that same month. Still, his girlfriend wasn’t phased and reassured him they could still take their little vacation at the tail end of her two-week solo trip.
“But I don’t think that’s good enough. If I was invited on the two-week trip, I’d be really into going!” he revealed.
And now, he’s pretty upset. Ever since they started their relationship, he was under the assumption that they would go on adventures like that together– especially after he told his girlfriend that he wanted to travel.
“So, for her to start planning this alone and not want me there, I feel, is hurtful,” he vented.
He tried telling his girlfriend that, too, but she just accused him of feeling rejected. That’s why he told her to still go on the trip if she was so excited since she obviously seemed interested in going solo.
Nonetheless, he can’t help but still feel annoyed about her going away alone, and he isn’t sure if that actually makes him a jerk or not.
Can you understand why he’s upset? Does his girlfriend have a right to go away on a solo trip? Does it sound like there was just a miscommunication? How should he reconcile this situation?
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