Love and money are a dangerous combination in relationships, and not because sharing finances is wrong, but because it reveals who’s actually invested and who’s just benefiting.
Several months back, this man sadly found out that his girlfriend was not being faithful. He quickly packed up his belongings, moved out of their house, and resolved to be done with her.
“It was rough, lots of sleepless nights, way too much overthinking, but I started to heal. Then, about two weeks later, she texts me out of nowhere asking if I could ‘help her with rent this month,'” he explained.
“I genuinely thought it was a joke. I even laughed when I read it. But she was dead serious. Said she was ‘in a tough spot’ and that since we’d lived together before, I should ‘understand how hard it is out there.'”
“I don’t know what kind of mental gymnastics you have to do to cheat on someone and then ask them for money, but apparently she nailed it.”
Well, he nearly agreed to do it, because as they say, old habits die hard. He was the one who paid their rent, groceries, and utilities, while his now ex-girlfriend didn’t pay a cent.
Luckily, he caught himself before caving in to her insane demand, and it dawned on him that he was no longer on the hook for helping her.
He responded that he would not be paying her rent as requested before blocking her so she could no longer reach out to him.
The thing is, his ex drained him financially as well as emotionally, and now he’s been doing his best to rebuild his credit score after everything that happened during their relationship.
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He’s doing a good job untangling the mess that is his finances, while keeping tabs on all the money he’s spending and making sure to budget.
He’s managing to find peace in no longer being attached to his ex, since it sounds like she didn’t do very much for him, while he was left doing all of the heavy lifting.
“If there’s one thing I learned from that mess, never mix love and bills unless you’re sure you’re both actually on the same team,” he concluded.
The fact that this girl had the audacity and entitlement to think the guy she cheated on would want to help her pay her rent will live rent-free in my head for literally the rest of my life.
I wish he had told her to ask her affair partner for rent money before he blocked her, because that’s actually the appropriate response.
What advice do you have for him?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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