No matter how attractive someone is, if they can’t stick to basic hygiene practices, it’s tough to keep on dating them. And you have to be pretty brave to make it past first base with someone who, well, smells pretty gross, but he managed to do that…only to be left trying to piece together how to let the girl he’s been seeing down gently.
This man has spent the last three weeks dating a girl who is quite gorgeous, so he thought that when it came time to hook up, he could anticipate that there would be a specific standard regarding her hygiene.
Unfortunately, he was in for a disgusting surprise. He’s slept with this girl around three or four times, but it hasn’t gone so well because she has a horrible hygiene problem, well, down there.
“The smell is so bad that it makes my stomach turn…the odor is such a turn-off. She also doesn’t groom/shave at all (she is of Asian origin, and I thought this is cultural), which adds to the odor,” he explained.
“Recently, she casually mentioned she hadn’t showered in 6 days! The problem is, she is in full ‘honeymoon mode.’ She is love-bombing me (calling me ‘baby,’ buying gifts, leaving items at my place).”
“She thinks everything is perfect. I want to end it immediately. I’m physically repulsed. However, I’m afraid of her reaction because she is so attached already, and she knows where I live.”
He’s really having a hard time working through how to tell this girl he can no longer see her anymore, but he’s not sure honesty is the best policy here.
He’s wondering how he can cut things off with her via text, as he wants to avoid dumping her face-to-face. He also doesn’t want to admit to her that she smells to high heaven, and he would like to avoid her dropping by his house, begging for another chance.
So that’s why he is struggling with whether he should mention something about her hygiene. Or, he could just say he’s not feeling a spark, though it’s debatable if she will take the hint.
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“And would such a text in the middle of that ‘honeymoon mood’ be too destructive for her?” he asked.
I’m astounded that nobody in this girl’s life has done her the courtesy of telling her that she smells, and I think it’s on him to do her that favor.
She deserves to know that this is scaring men away, and going six straight days without showering is also disgusting. I can’t believe he made it past hooking up once with her if she has such a bad stench.
But anyway, he can be kind yet fair with her when he tells her the bad news. And I think it’s perfectly acceptable to tell her this in a text message.
What advice do you have for him?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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