Beauty is only skin deep, but in some households, what you see on the surface is the only thing that matters. And there’s a tragic irony in a dad who praises his partner’s beauty while behaving with such ugliness toward his own child and insulting her appearance.
For her, returning home for the holidays meant re-entering a world where her dad’s ego is tied entirely to the flawless face of his younger girlfriend.
But when her dad’s girlfriend offended her, she stood up for herself, angering her dad in the process. It turns out that while you can buy a new face, you can’t buy the grace or character that actually makes a person beautiful.
This 18-year-old girl has spent the last two years living at a boarding school in another country, and that’s how she met her 19-year-old boyfriend, whom she’s been dating for ten months.
Now they are both living in America. She’s from Eastern Europe, and for her school breaks, she goes home. Since her boyfriend’s family does not celebrate Christmas, she invited him to come home with her this December.
Her 44-year-old dad cheated on her mom with his 28-year-old girlfriend, resulting in her mom and dad’s divorce.
“It’s a very stereotypical relationship: the older, rich dude with the hot young woman. She has her whole face done, Botox, lift, long, thick eyelashes, heavy makeup, etc, which a lot of men here find attractive as it can be the beauty standard,” she explained.
“My father always jokes [about] how all men want her and how women want to be her, which makes me uncomfortable most times. In that house, I’m seen more as a smart woman rather than a beautiful one because that ‘title’ is already taken.”
“Generally, I do not think I am hideous; I am just on the taller side and not as thin as she is, which makes me uglier in their opinion.”
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She arrived back home on December 23rd and stayed at her mom’s house up until Christmas. Then, she went to see her dad. She introduced her boyfriend to her dad and his girlfriend, who was wearing a super-tight leather dress.
Her dad’s girlfriend was all over her dad that night, and after a couple of drinks, her dad’s girlfriend told her to be careful and watch her boyfriend, since guys quickly fall in love with her.
Her dad teased her about it as well, and it offended her to have the two of them think that her dad’s girlfriend could steal her boyfriend since she’s the prettier one.
She eventually snapped back that her dad’s girlfriend had to quit thinking all men found her and her plastic-looking face desirable.
“My father then yelled at me and told me I had no right to say such things, but before he could do anything else, I just took my BF’s arm and left,” she continued.
“Most of my family thinks I exaggerated over a joke, but none of them know how I feel over jokes like these. My BF said I had every right to say that, and so did my mom.”
“I do not want to apologize to anyone, as I have always been the one to apologize to them, but I didn’t want to ruin Christmas night either.”
I don’t think she owes her dad or his girlfriend an apology here. They’re creating a toxic culture at home by picking on her for not being beautiful. Or rather, fitting their definition of beauty.
How disgusting to have your own dad partake in putting you down. I’m really not sure why she bothers having a relationship with him.
Do you think she was wrong to insult her dad’s girlfriend after she joked about taking her man? Who do you think is the real villain: the girlfriend for making the comment, or the dad for enabling and encouraging a culture of beauty-shaming in his home?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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