Imagine wearing an engagement ring for years, proud of how grand and big it is, and having your husband brag to everyone about how much he spent on it…only to find out it’s completely fake amid your divorce.
What would you do? Would you confront him? Would you give it back? Would you say nothing?
This woman is just getting into the early phase of divorcing her husband, and lately, she’s been wondering about whether she should give her engagement ring back to him if he requests it.
Yesterday, she went out to get her ring appraised, since it’s enormous and quite interesting. She loves the ring, but she was curious about the value.
As soon as she walked into her appointment for the appraisal, the jeweler instantly mentioned that the ring didn’t look quite right.
“Upon further inspection, he confirmed it is fake! All cubic zirconia! I am embarrassed and angry. He [my husband] had informed me that he sourced the stones and told me their carat weight,” she explained.
“He had even told me when we got married that he had it insured, which I know now is a lie. I never asked for the paperwork because at the time, I had no reason to be suspicious.”
Now, her husband has lied to her about multiple things, so the ring is just the icing on the cake. Also, her husband would constantly take her ring to get it cleaned alone, and he wouldn’t allow her to do this.
It makes sense that he didn’t want her to go to a jeweler with the ring, since she would have found out about his lie ages ago.
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Additionally, her husband bragged about the ring to their loved ones, so it’s upsetting to her that he was comfortable lying to so many people about a big-ticket item.
She’s wondering if she has a right to be so angry with her husband about the engagement ring, considering they will no longer be together.
“How do I handle this? Should I let it go? Do I tell him I know he lied? I am angry but don’t want to lash out as I want this divorce to be amicable, but also…. [forget] him for lying!” she exclaimed.
It’s hard to let things go when people hurt us, disappoint us, or let us down. It’s even more difficult to walk away when we’re lied to, but I think that’s the only worthwhile way for her to handle this.
If she was planning on going nuclear in the divorce, perhaps I would suggest otherwise, but since she doesn’t want to make the divorce ugly, offering to give it back to him without tipping her hand to knowing it’s not real is my advice.
What do you think she should do, especially since she’s concerned about keeping their divorce process polite?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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