While you can’t pick your family members, you certainly can choose whether you would like to keep them in your life. So if your loved ones are just too chaotic to deal with, would you consider snip snipping them out of your life to preserve your sanity?
This 39-year-old woman can’t say she’s ever been close with her family members. She’s actually cut contact with her mom on multiple occasions, and she had plenty of reasons to do so.
She did her best to maintain a relationship with her 32-year-old sister and her dad, even though she moved 10 hours away to prevent them from making her crazy.
Four years ago, her unstable sister ditched her boyfriend, whom she had been with for a long time, and unexpectedly married a random man she never even met.
That kicked off quite the drama, and the relationship came to an end after this guy forced her sister to live in her car. She even offered to send her sister a moving truck and allow her to move in with her just to get the insanity to stop.
“She called me a day before she was supposed to pick up the truck I ordered for her and told me never mind [they] worked it out…ugh. I lost a $300 deposit, but okay,” she explained.
A year later, she got diagnosed with stage 3 melanoma that had unfortunately spread to her lymph nodes. She phoned her sister, panicked, as she was terrified.
As she sobbed into the phone, her sister mentioned that she could not handle her at the moment, since her stepson’s best friend had passed away a week earlier.
She was flabbergasted, and her sister reminded her that she was tough and could figure out a way through her diagnosis. She hung up on her sister, then blocked her. She has not spoken to her sister since.
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“Fast forward to 6 months ago. My sister’s ex called me to say that she told him she was pregnant and living in her car. I was like [what on earth], so I called my dad,” she said.
“I thought my dad remembered that my sister only had a 1 in 1 trillion chance of ever getting pregnant due to some poor choices as a teenager.”
“I was there with her when she had emergency surgery, and the OB specifically said the chances of her ever getting pregnant [are] extremely unlikely.”
She asked her dad to look into the pregnancy, as she was suspicious that her sister was lying to them. Her dad replied that if it turned out her sister was indeed pregnant, she had to move home and help her with the baby, since he wouldn’t be able to.
Her dad went on to say that her sister helped her with her son when she still lived at home. She told her dad she couldn’t walk away from her 8-year-old relationship and her business to move in with them.
Her dad started yelling about how family members should always help their loved ones, so she hung up the phone. Two weeks after that exchange, her dad called to say her sister had been pregnant, but just lost the baby and had to spend the next two weeks on bedrest in the hospital.
Since her sister has a job as a delivery driver, she was unable to work. She questioned her dad about whether this was really the truth, as she found it outlandish that her sister would require weeks of bed rest for a miscarriage.
On top of that, her sister did have to spend a night in her car, but her husband welcomed her back into the home. Her dad said she had to be supportive of her sister’s loss, and she called him a fool, causing him to hang up.
“I decided that I’m just done. I don’t want to continue a relationship with my father, so he calls, I don’t answer, but he still calls my kids, and I don’t have a problem with that,” she concluded.
She’s left wondering if she’s wrong for finally walking away from her unhinged family.
Wow, her family is a whole circus! I think she should resolve to keep them all blocked and live her life without them. They’re just toxic and dramatic and who needs that?
What do you think?
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