The idea of “the one who got away” sounds romantic in theory, like something out of a movie. But in real life, hearing those words from someone who just married another person isn’t romantic at all; it’s just a mess.
This 33-year-old woman thought her 35-year-old male best friend from college was an amazing man, full of decency, but she sadly found out at his wedding how wrong she was.
Her best friend got married back in October, and that day ruined their friendship. Rewinding to when they were in college, they literally hung out every single day with one another.
“I had a huge crush on him when we first met, but he was in a relationship, and then I was together with someone else when they broke up. So the feelings just naturally disappeared,” she explained.
“About 11 years ago, he met a girl. They got on and started dating. However, this girl has been vocally jealous of our relationship, commenting things like ‘you two have so much in common,’ in a snarky way when we’ve laughed at a joke she doesn’t find funny.”
“I even moved abroad, but she kept being jealous and suspicious of our relationship. For example, I texted him asking what’s up, and then it would turn out that I’m actually talking to her on his phone, etc.”
Her best friend ended up having a kid with this woman, but that didn’t make her less suspicious. Her best friend’s girlfriend still would not let them chat alone without keeping tabs on what they were saying.
Despite all of this, she did her best to be friendly with this girl, but it didn’t work. They never had a decent relationship due to her insane jealousy.
Anyway, her best friend married this girl in October, and she was invited to the wedding. She thought it was a gorgeous event, full of romance.
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“However, the bride decided to leave for the hotel on her own before midnight, which I was really surprised by. Apparently, she was just tired,” she added.
“We kept the party going with my friend, the groom, and his mates, whom I knew most of from the past, too. We had such a laugh till 8 a.m. However, something killed the mood for me pretty soon after the bride had left the venue.”
“My friend approached me for a private chat. He literally said, ‘You know, I spoke to all my mates at the stag-do too, if things had gone a bit differently, it would be mine and your wedding we’d be celebrating now.'”
That’s right, her best friend said to her that she’s the one who got away for him!
She was so blindsided that she stared blankly back at her best friend before walking off. She spent the remainder of the evening pretending he hadn’t uttered those words to her.
She is wildly upset, and it makes sense to her that her best friend’s now-wife has been jealous of their bond all along, because obviously her best friend does have feelings for her.
“I swear, women have a sixth sense in these things. I just didn’t want to believe that that sweet, considerate, wonderful man would end up being such a swine in the end. At his own wedding,” she continued.
“I haven’t told my own fresh fiancé about this either. He’s met my friend a few times, and they really got on and liked each other. Now I don’t want to burst his image of him, too.”
“But I do feel like I’m holding some kind of a dirty secret. And safe to say – I haven’t been able to look the bride in the eyes since.”
It’s weird that her best friend left his bride on their wedding night alone in their hotel room until 8 in the morning, and that’s just further evidence he’s not a nice guy.
I think she should tell her fiancé about her best friend’s confession, and I don’t see how she can stay friends with this man after he basically said he’s in love with her.
What advice do you have for her?
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