What would you do if you met someone promising, only to find out that they’re already engaged to another person and have been living a double life for months?
Exactly three months ago, this girl met a guy on a dating app, and they have been seeing one another exclusively ever since. They’ve gone out on several dates and have slept with one another.
He really was all-in from the start and wasted no time making it clear how he felt about her. She thought he was just looking for something serious and wasn’t concerned that he was lovebombing her.
“At the beginning, he told me he wanted a future with me, even talked about getting me pregnant, and said he loved me,” she explained.
“However, I always felt like he was hiding something. I asked him multiple times if he was in a relationship or seeing someone else, and he always denied it.”
“This past weekend, he suddenly disappeared and said he just needed time to ‘recharge,’ but I didn’t fully believe him. I looked into it and found out he has actually been in a relationship the entire time we were seeing each other.”
He’s engaged, and she thinks it looks like he bought a house recently with this other woman!
She’s left feeling broken-hearted, and it’s hard for her to understand why he lied to her in such an enormous way. She’s not the only person she feels sorry for, though; she feels awful for this guy’s fiancée.
As soon as she pieced together that he was not only seeing her, she blocked him, as closure is meaningless here. She’s wondering what she should do, but keeping silent doesn’t look like the best solution to her.
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“I think his fiancée needs to know the kinda person she will marry. I have her Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat. But I’m also scared, he knows where I live, my car, and I live alone with no family in this city, so I worry about potential consequences if he gets angry,” she continued.
I’m a firm believer in not letting guys get away with this, so she should tell his unsuspecting fiancée so she can decide if she wants to still marry him or not. Knowledge is power.
If she’s concerned about her safety, she could install security cameras and maybe book a vacation when she does show the fiancée evidence of her man cheating.
Since she knows all about the fiancée’s social media profiles, she could even try figuring out who her close friends and family members are and try alerting them first. That won’t take much by way of detective work, and could be less scary for her.
Do you think alerting the fiancée is the right thing?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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