How would you begin to cope after finding out that your spouse was secretly seeing the person your child was in a relationship with?
This 46-year-old woman and her 46-year-old husband have a 16-year-old daughter and a 24-year-old son together. She and her husband started dating when they were only 14, and they tied the knot at 18.
So, they’re high school sweethearts who have been living happily ever after up until recently. Now, her husband is the Executive Manager of an enormous company, and they host a couple of parties throughout the year.
At two of these particular parties, employees are permitted to bring their family members as guests, so long as they pay for their own drinks.
She and her two kids attended one of the parties, and her son just so happened to meet a 26-year-old woman while they were there.
Her son and this woman hit it off, and they have been dating. Her son is totally obsessed with this woman, and they’re not exactly official yet, as they’re still in the new phase of seeing one another.
And unfortunately, it turns out that her son is not the only man this woman has been trying to find love with.
“It was a big scandal at the company when it came out that she has been messing and fooling around with my husband during working hours,” she explained.
“It all came with proof, photos, and she had to leave the company. They cut off his salary (almost half of it) for 6 months, but he kept his position.”
“I still call him husband because technically, we are not yet divorced. We are separated in the process of it all. It all came out shortly after the new year. This woman has since moved in with my husband and gotten pregnant.”
Her family has been blown to smithereens, her son is not speaking to her or her husband, and she’s not even sure how to begin to pick up the pieces and mend the relationship with her family.
She’s tried texting and calling her son, who just ignores her. She even attempted to make contact with him through some of his friends, but that didn’t work.
Her son is horribly depressed following the affair, or at least that’s what his friends have relayed to her. She’s deeply concerned about him.
“He has been dealing with feelings of jealousy and envy with his father for a long time. My ex is a handsome man, fit and clean-cut. My son is a handsome young man too, but is still young, and he has still plenty of time to develop all the skills he needs,” she continued.
“My daughter is still in touch with my ex, and she wants to be in contact with her half-sibling. She is just 16, so I will have to navigate contact with my ex. And of course, I am shaken too and feel betrayed. I never suspected him of cheating.”
When people are deeply hurt, they don’t always make the right or rational decisions, and I think that’s the only reason why her son is keeping his distance from her.
All she can really do is keep being there for him, for when he is ready to resume contact. I also suspect he might feel guilty for bringing this woman around his family, who ultimately tore them all apart.
As for her daughter, she can make her ex come get her if her daughter wants to spend time with the baby. That way, she won’t have to be near any of them and can keep her distance.
What advice do you have for her?
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