If you found out that your spouse was secretly going out on dates with a friend of theirs for an entire year, would you be racing to file for a divorce?
This woman and her husband have been together for 12 years, and they’re both 41. They have a child who has special needs and requires round-the-clock care.
She hasn’t had a job in three years, but she does have income of her own. Two years ago, her husband opened up his own restaurant, and he was never at home because of the time that required.
Often, her husband would complain about not having the ability to spend time with her and their child due to how busy he was with the restaurant.
A few days ago, her husband came home super late at 1 a.m., and she asked him why that was. He replied that he was hanging out with one of their mutual friends.
She didn’t think her husband was telling her the truth, so she reached out to their friend, who revealed that her husband had not been with him and was clearly lying.
Next, she went through the messages on her husband’s phone to get to the bottom of where he actually was that night.
“He had been messaging, having coffees, drinks, and dinners for like a year with a woman [who] sometimes helps him in the restaurant,” she explained.
“That night, they had dinner together. I confronted him about it, and he denied it at first, but I had proof, so he finally admitted it, but said they were just friends, and nothing happened.”
“I do believe him that they didn’t [hook up], BUT this was emotional cheating for me, and I got as mad as I could get. He said he was afraid of how I would react and decided to lie.”
This is nonsense, as she has male friends and grabs coffee with them, and her husband has female friends, and they always tell one another when they’re spending time with their friends. That’s never been a problem for them before.
She has shared with some of her loved ones that her husband has been secretly having dinner with another woman, and they all insist she is overreacting, since her husband didn’t do anything physical with this woman.
She can’t help but feel cheated on and like she can no longer trust her husband. Also, she feels like she’s not enough for him in light of what he’s been doing behind her back.
“He even had dinner with her one time while I was in the ER with our kid. He said it was probably just a quick dinner, but…If you have time for dinner, you have time to take a car and go see your kid in the ER, which is 10 minutes away. I’m hurt and divided and don’t know what to do,” she concluded.
I mean, this is totally an affair, and I think there’s more going on between her husband and this woman than he’s confessing to. I can’t understand why her loved ones are calling her dramatic, because she’s underreacting here.
This woman is clearly not her husband’s friend; she’s more than that, otherwise her husband wouldn’t have been sneaking around with her.
What advice do you have for her?
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