If you found out that your spouse was cheating on you with their married therapist, what would you do about it? Would you want a divorce?
This 45-year-old man and his wife, who is the same age as him, got married 9 years ago and have been together for 12 years in total.
He knew he was in love with his wife by the time their very first conversation came to an end, and they have been inseparable since meeting one another.
“I’ve always believed that she was my person, the one [who] made me whole, and I know she always believed the same. No kids, just me and her facing the world together hand in hand,” he explained.
“For 12 years, I’ve been her rock, I’ve taken care of her every need. I cook, I clean, and work full-time to pay all the bills. I’ve been there to pick her up every time she fell.”
“She has a lot of trauma that she’s carried with her, and it got to a point where I knew she needed professional help. She agreed and began seeing her therapist about 3 months ago. I was so happy for her that she was finally, after so many years, embracing healing.”
However, he could tell that something was off because his wife’s appointments with her therapist ran increasingly longer, and she started seeing this man more each week. Her appointments then got pushed later into the evenings.
His wife mentioned that her therapist was extremely invested in healing her, as he had the same trauma. He even made her a special treatment plan.
Two months ago, he overheard a phone call his wife had with her therapist, and her tone was not right. She also said a specific sentence that gave him chills.
He called his wife out on her inappropriateness, and she promptly moved into their guest room. She did not talk to him for an entire week.
Finally, she did say something. She called him insane for being worried about her bond with her therapist and said she was going to keep sleeping in the guest room.
He worried that his wife was right and that he was making things up about her and her therapist. From there, he saw texts from his wife’s therapist on her phone because he was helping her with her car, and they popped up on the dashboard screen.
His wife shut the Bluetooth off and would not show him what they said. She argued it wasn’t his business and he was blowing things out of proportion.
So, he began investigating his wife’s call log, and he could see she was talking to her therapist on his business line, but mainly through his personal cell phone. His wife was talking to her therapist way too much.
“Nights, weekends, during the time she goes out for a ‘walk,’ as soon as I leave the house to go to the gym or run an errand. On her way to work. On her lunch break. On my birthday. More confrontations, more excuses, more lies being told to my face,” he added.
He felt like he was going crazy and the stress was killing him, so he hired a private investigator to help him piece it all together. Over the weekend, this person delivered the evidence he was hoping for.
“Full-blown affair, [she’s] married to me, [he’s] married to a wife and [has] kids. The things I’ve seen, the things I’ve heard, I don’t even know who that person is. Like someone has taken my wife’s body and is using her as a puppet,” he said.
“It’s undeniable that he’s also manipulating her. Feeding her [nonsense] about me, making me look like the bad guy. My soul is crushed. My world is broken. We had plans to die together one day in what would hopefully be the far-off future, and now I don’t even know what tomorrow will bring.”
“I haven’t confronted her with the proof. I let her continue to lie to me and to continue thinking that she’s able to gaslight and manipulate me. I’ve talked to lawyers; we have minimal assets, but I know she will fight me tooth and nail on things she has no right to.”
For what he plans on doing to his wife’s therapist, well, he’s going to call the ethics board to report him. He is also going to contact this man’s wife.
He’s ready to go nuclear here. Tomorrow, his wife has another appointment with her therapist, and he is aware that it’s going to involve more cheating.
He actually asked her not to go, and she literally laughed in his face.
Well, I don’t think he should let his wife know that he’s aware of what she’s doing with her therapist. He needs to do what his lawyers advise and file for divorce as soon as possible.
I like his plan to report his wife’s therapist and alert his poor wife to his actions. Those are all smart moves, and I hope he can find healing.
What advice do you have for him?
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