She Picked Up A Second Job To Afford To Go On A Miserable Yet Expensive Vacation With Her Boyfriend’s Family And Now He’s Saying He Doesn’t Get Why She Might Break Up With Him
They say there are two sides to every story, but when you hear about this one, you’re probably only going to understand one side.
A 29-year-old man and his 28-year-old girlfriend went on vacation to another country last week along with his family.
His brother, his brother’s wife, and his parents all went on the trip last week with them, and it was one expensive international family vacation.
He and his brother did pretty much all of the planning for the trip, even though he says they asked everyone to give some input on things.
He then explained that he makes about $150,000 and works as a consultant in IT. His brother and his parents are both very affluent.
His girlfriend makes $45,000 and she works as a teacher. Already, I think you can see where this is going.
“My girlfriend knew this trip was coming up and took on a second job waitressing on the weekends for several months to get ready for it,” he explained.
“We have always split things 50/50 in the 2 years we have been together. There were a few times on the vacation when she did not go on outings with us- wine tasting/scuba diving/etc.”
“She also would only eat 2 meals a day, simply stating that she was on a budget. My family does favor more high-end (*expensive*) places.”
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His girlfriend always eats 3 meals a day, but she literally could not afford to eat more than twice a day on this vacation.
His parents thought she was bizarre for only eating twice a day, though it sounds like he never told them about the real reason why she was doing this.
Only after they returned home from the family vacation did he decide to ask his girlfriend why she wasn’t going on all of the family outings and eating so little.
“I mentioned how I heard her stomach growling one night and said I was concerned about her having an eating disorder,” he continued.
“She got teary-eyed and said that 3 meals a day wasn’t fiscally feasible for her and neither were the outings that she chose not to go on (she went on 3 of 6 outings).”
“She said she was not expecting everything to cost so much and she was overwhelmed.”
She brought it up to him that she thinks their relationship isn’t going to work if he expects her to continue going on expensive vacations with his wealthy family since they all make far more than she does and she can’t afford to do the things they want to do.
He admits he feels bad that he didn’t pick up on any of this sooner, but I’m sorry, I’m not buying that.
She already told him on the trip she could not afford to eat more than twice a day and she had to have been sad and upset the whole time! Who could hide that?
He then pointed out they had already agreed to split things right down the middle and he doesn’t get why she would come on the family vacation “if the cost was an issue.”
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“My heart broke for this girl. Not only did she work extra jobs just to afford to go along, when she got there, much of what was offered was beyond her means. So much so that he could hear her stomach grumbling?
“And then he has the unmitigated GALL to ASK HER about it on the idea that she might have a f***ing eating disorder??”
“And he’s afraid he might not have been attuned to his girlfriend and her finances. Because, after all, they have agreed to split everything 50/50.”
“You guys are supposed to be partners, but instead you’re treating her like a leech for the mere idea of you helping her out of the vacation.”
“I make much less than my partner. We don’t do 50/50 on anything because it’s not possible for me nor is it fair.”
“Your partner sounds like she’s in distress trying to figure out how to afford to eat while you’re focusing on the money and how 50/50 is “fair”. She deserves better.”
“He gets to save and have enough money to spend on whatever, whenever he wants, while his girlfriend is struggling just to be able to afford her share of things.”
“Yes, going 50/50 might have worked out in the beginning of their relationship, but when the income disparity is that big, you need to adjust the agreement. Why should she be the one to live up to his desires, when he so clearly doesn’t care about hers?”
“You make three times what she does. You knew she had to take a second job to be able to go. You planned the holiday/the activities.”
“She even said while you were there that she could only afford to eat two meals a day.”
“Don’t plan for your budget when you know she makes so much less than you. I think it’s safe to say she didn’t enjoy the holiday at all.”
“She probably found it stressful to work out what she could afford, and embarrassing to have to skip meals.”
“And she probably couldn’t even actually really afford whatever she did spend. She’ll probably need months to recover the savings.”
“He wasn’t oblivious, he noticed she was hungry and not eating. He just simply didn’t care enough to buy her food.”
You can read the rest of what the internet had to say here.
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