She Screamed At And Shamed Her Mother-In-Law At A Family Party But Now She’s Asking The Internet If There Was A Better Way To Handle Things
A young, married woman said she and her husband both do not want to have any children, and it’s not a fleeting feeling.
Her husband made the decision to get a vasectomy well before they even started dating one another, and as for her, she just never felt the need to be a mom.
Now, her mother-in-law has no idea that her husband got the vasectomy, and so has been blaming her for not being given grandchildren.
“When I got married, she wrote this whole letter about how she can’t wait for us to be parents and read it out loud during our reception,” she explained.
“She would cry on the phone with my sister-in-law about how I’m the worst thing that has ever happened to her.”
“She would make racist Facebook posts targeted at me because I’m Asian and my husband is white.”
“There have been times she would introduce my husband to different women when he’s already married to me and would tell him that he deserves better.”
Oh boy, her mother-in-law truly sounds awful, but things don’t exactly end there.
Recently, this young woman was at a family party, but her husband wasn’t in attendance because he was busy getting a birthday surprise ready for her.
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She usually avoids any family events with her husband’s side because of her mother-in-law always going to them, but this time she wanted to see the family members she hasn’t seen in a while.
As she was at the party having a conversation with her husband’s aunt, his aunt apologized to her for not being able to be a mom.
His aunt then asked how he felt about not being able to have children.
She was shocked to hear all of this and inquired what the aunt meant by all this. Her husband’s aunt informed her that her mother-in-law put the whole family on a group chat and said she wasn’t fertile.
She then went straight to her mother-in-law and confronted her. Her mother-in-law told her that she thought if she told people about the vasectomy, everyone would consider him “less of a man.”
“I started to scream at her,” she continued. “Everybody in the room kinda started telling me that I shouldn’t be ashamed because I am infertile (they thought I was shifting the blame on my husband when I’m infertile) and I revealed the truth because I was not infertile.”
“I told everyone about how my mother-in-law was spreading lies because she didn’t want her son to be “less of a man”.”
“I told everyone about her introducing my husband to different women because she wanted to replace me and is openly racist towards me.”
“My brother-in-law calmed me down because I was bawling my eyes out and called my husband, asking him to come home.”
When her husband got there, her mother-in-law sobbed that she was “running her reputation.” Her mother-in-law then got manipulative and told her husband she was trying to pit them against each other.
Her husband sided with her and explained to his mom that they would no longer be in contact with her after this incident.
They left together, but then her husband’s family started texting them saying she ruined their relationship.
Now, her mother-in-law is making posts about her on social media. Although her husband thinks she had every right to fight back, she’s left wondering if there was a better way to handle things.
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“The husband should have cleared all this up with his mother years ago.”
“So relieved to hear that your husband backed you up, as he should.”
“Hope the rest of the family realize it’s not you breaking up a mother/son relationship, but rather the mother’s behavior that is breaking it up.”
“Look, your mother-in-law lied and schemed and connived against you and she is reaping what she sowed. Stand tall.”
“I’m sorry you had to go through that but you can now cut her out of your day-to-day life, and it will be all the better for it.”
“The MIL is probably the reason he doesn’t want to have kids tbh.”
“Everyone has a limit and you reached yours. Your MIL is a dreadful person and well done to you for advocating for yourself and your husband for firmly being on your side.”
“The lies she told were awful, the racism directed at you equally so. You have not broken up her relationship with her son, she has done that.”
“The best thing to do in my opinion is disengage from them all, the people who are sending messages, block them on social media, block their numbers, have a good talk with your husband on the limits you now need to set with his extended family, make sure you are on the same page.”
“Do not feel any guilt about this, you have a right to peace, to not be bullied and lied about, keep her firmly at a distance, and don’t let her back in, you will find how much easier you breathe without someone so toxic in your life. Good luck.”
You can read the rest of what the internet had to say here.
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