She’s Refusing To Let Her Teen Nephew And His Pregnant Girlfriend Live In Their Pool House But Now She’s Asking The Internet To Weigh In On What To Do
A woman’s nephew came to live with her, her husband, and their 8-year-old son after their family suffered a tragedy.
Her sister-in-law and her sister-in-law’s husband sadly passed away in a car accident 6 months ago.
Her nephew, whom she refers to as N, then moved in, and he was 16 at the time but now is 17.
N obviously struggled a lot with what happened, and he goes to therapy. Right before his parents passed, he started dating this girl named R, and they’ve been together for 10 months.
R is the same age as N, and she really was there in a big way for N after he lost his family.
“N is a generally very good kid even in his grief. R isn’t a bad kid either,” she said. “She has decent grades, plays sports, & volunteers, and is generally well mannered.”
“Her family life hasn’t been the best though, so she spends a LOT of her time at our house.”
She has ended up staying at their house overnight on several occasions, and every time they let her stay in their guest bedroom because they didn’t feel it was appropriate for her to share N’s room.
Although She took precautions and spoke to both of these teens about being safe while being intimate, R got pregnant.
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She found out this news last week, and these teens promised that they were being safe like she told them to be.
R’s parents have kicked her out for being pregnant, so they took her right in and said she can stay there while she figures out what to do next.
The problem is, she and her husband really cannot afford to pay for R and the baby to be living with them, so they had a sit-down with N and R to learn about what they’re planning on doing now.
“We can’t really take on an extra person (we already took on N) plus a newborn without major sacrifices on our and our son’s part, which doesn’t feel fair to him,” she said.
Well, one of her in-laws had told these teens they could just live in her pool house without paying any rent, so that’s what these teens were banking on.
While it was an apartment at one point, it’s currently the home of her art studio and she would need to take out a loan to make it a liveable space once more.
Another issue is that this in-law then mentioned she could be the one babysitting the baby for free, but the problem is she works as a teacher and obviously can’t quit her job to do this.
“We corrected them, let them know they were still welcome to stay here but in their own rooms – once they graduated HS and/or gotten a GED, we’d revisit sleeping arrangements for them + the baby,” she continued.
“We said we wouldn’t charge rent but they would need to find a way to provide whatever they needed for their child – we’d help by getting their car seat system and that was all.”
“Formula, wipes, childcare, etc. were all on them to figure out.”
“Now N, R, and all of my husband’s family are in an uproar about it saying they’re kids and can’t possibly go to HS AND raise a child. We said they should’ve thought about that sooner then if they couldn’t afford a baby.”
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“Your in-laws do not care about your nephew or his baby and gf. All they care about is that they don’t have to support them themselves. Stop taking their calls.”
“This is not your responsibility, you should not be the one who is taking care of and funding this baby.”
“It’s time to have an honest conversation; things become real once you bringing money into it.”
“Sit both kids down and start showing them how much it takes to raise a baby for the first year let alone the rest of 18 years.”
“Frankly if they are grown up enough to have a baby they are grown up enough to deal with the responsibility that comes with it.”
“Of course they can always consider adoption which will give them a lot more options and teenage freedom and wait until they are fully ready to support a child.”
“Otherwise, it’s time they get familiar with social services, WIC, etc… which can help a lot.
“Here to add, make sure to budget how much an apartment will cost once they’re 18, presuming your generosity will cease once they’re of age to move out; inclusive of utilities, car insurance, phone bills, groceries, etc.”
“In-laws can and should pitch in. Money isn’t the central concern, it is the innocent child. This child, should they keep him/her, will deserve the basics plus a peaceful and loving environment. All should participate.”
“Seriously. Why do people keep talking to people who give them unnecessary drama? Just stop talking to them. How hard is that.”
You can read the rest of what the internet had to say to her here.
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