Her Sister Is Having A Baby With Her Ex And She’s Telling The Internet Her Mom Expects Her To Plan The Baby Shower
A 26-year-old woman is not that excited about her sister Sophia being pregnant, and it’s not because she dislikes children.
In fact, she’s telling the internet she has a perfectly good reason for her lack of enthusiasm.
Her entire family is obsessed with Sophia’s pregnancy, and nobody can stop discussing things like the baby shower, the name Sophia should pick for her baby, and the clothing they should get for the baby.
This young woman is sick of all of it already.
“I’m trying to be polite, but it’s especially upsetting because the father of my future nephew/niece is the guy I was (and might still be, idk anymore) really in love with,” she explained.
“‘Luke’ was actually someone I dated first, back in my final year of university. Luke is also from my home city, too, but we hadn’t met prior.”
“We dated a good few months before he decided that we worked better as friends. This hurt, but I pushed through it, and we got a good friendship out of it.”
They ended up graduating and both returning home. Luke basically lived at her house that summer, since he does not have a good relationship with his dad.
Well, while Luke was living at her house, he ended up getting together with Sophia. She first realized they were a thing when she watched Luke kiss Sophia at a party.
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She genuinely believed their relationship would not last, and now Luke and Sophia are having a baby.
She really has moved past being upset about Luke and Sophia, but that doesn’t mean she’s going to pretend to be excited about this next step in their relationship.
“Yet, despite all this history between Luke and I, no one in my family seems to think this whole experience might be a little strange for me,” she continued.
Things really got intense in the family when her mom asked if she could plan Sophia’s baby shower.
She said no, before admitting “it also feels weird for me to be so involved with my feelings being the mess that they are.”
“I just told her she could do it if she wanted, it’s her grandchild, and that makes more sense than me doing it.”
“But my mum got upset with me and “my tone” and accused me of being unsupportive of my sister’s happiness this whole time, and even selfish for not wanting to be a part of it more.”
She really has tried her best to be an adult about the entire situation, so she basically told her mom off for creating drama around the shower.
She’s beginning to feel bad, especially since her mom is still mad at her, and is left wondering if she was in the wrong for refusing to plan the baby shower.
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“This has nothing to do with your history with Luke. If you don’t want to do the baby shower, don’t do it.”
“Your mom is being extremely entitled to think she can just give commands like that and commit emotional blackmail when people refuse.”
“Mom’s have the reputation of being so kind and supportive, but I’ve mostly noticed they tend to be entitled little children that always have to get their way. so strange.”
“Cite traditional etiquette if pressed. Families do not give showers for their relatives. A close friend, godparent, or group of friends should offer to host the party since it is understood that family will support the new mother or bride. Family members are then invited to the shower as a courtesy.”
“You’ve already been very mature in this situation. It is possible for you to be happy for your sister and still not want to get overly involved with the process.”
“Good on you for standing up for yourself, your mom sounds pretty pushy. Just let her know that you look forward to attending the baby shower as a guest and not a planner, there’s no shame in some boundaries.”
“…You should think about taking some time away. Get out of town for a year. Take a job in another city or even another state or country.”
“Go out and pursue your own passions and get your own life back on track.”
“You’ve been mired in your family and in this love triangle too long and you need some time to work through all the big feelings you have. It’s okay to take a break.”
“It’s also okay to set boundaries with your family. it’s okay to tell them no. You would respect them if they said no to you for something, right? They should do the same for you.”
Then CaroSCP asked, “How did they respond when he moved on to your sister? Did they offer you any empathy? Support? Understanding?”
“They didn’t, but it’s my own fault because I downplayed my feelings for him to them because it was kind of embarrassing to admit that I really, really liked him when he broke it off and we were still seeing each other loads as friends,” she replied.
“They offered sympathy at the time of the breakup, but I brushed it off, and they figured by the time he got with Sophia that all was well and they even joked over it a few times, which was so awkward for me. I just really suck at expressing myself, I think. I just kind of hoped they’d see through it.”
You can read the rest of what the internet had to say to her here.
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