His Girlfriend Planned An Elaborate Trip For His Birthday But Then Made Him Pay For His Own Birthday Dinner And The Internet Is Insisting This Is So Wrong
A 28-year-old man celebrated his birthday yesterday, and his 30-year-old girlfriend who he has been with for a year decided to do something nice for him.
She actually planned an elaborate trip to his favorite city in America. She went all out and paid for their plane tickets as well as an Airbnb for them to stay in.
This man really couldn’t believe how elaborate and generous his girlfriend had been in planning this whole thing, and he didn’t bring it up to her because he realized she was really making a big effort to be generous with him.
Now, when he was a child, his mom and dad would say some terrible things to him such as nobody would end up attending his birthday party because they were on vacation, so he feels very badly about his birthdays as an adult.
He doesn’t think his birthday is important, he never wants a party, and he never wants his day to be a big deal. His girlfriend is aware of all of it.
So yesterday he and his girlfriend flew into the city she planned his birthday trip in, and then she brought him to a very expensive seafood restaurant as part of her plan.
Apparently, his girlfriend had gone on a girls’ trip with her friends to this city several months before his birthday, and she and her friends had been to this exact seafood place.
As soon as they sat down and looked at their menus, his girlfriend remarked on how much money it cost to eat their, and she was clearly uneasy while mentioning this.
He explained to her that he was happy to pay for half of their lunch, or he was also happy to pick out less expensive things on the menu.
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His girlfriend said to him that she would like to pay for half of lunch and he would pay for the other half.
When their bill came, he was surprised that she said she really did want to pay for the whole thing, and he allowed her to.
Their day together continued, and when it turned to evening, they decided to go get a few drinks before heading out to dinner.
They had a wonderful time at the bar, and they started chatting with other people and the bartenders that worked there.
“When we talked among ourselves we were discussing where to go after for dinner,” he said.
“After exploring mid-to-upscale options and deciding on a place, she turned and said to me “Dinner is on you,” then walked away to talk to the new bar-friends.”
“She was still talking to those friends when the bill came. 2 cocktails and 2 shots for $80. Yikes.”
He paid for their drinks and his girlfriend did see the bill before they left to go to dinner, so she knew how much it had cost them.
“When we got there and got settled, I asked, “You said dinner’s on me, is that still the case?”, which then evolved into an epic argument culminating in her comparing me to her ex and also saying that I was to blame for all of my many complex issues within my immediate family,” he continued.
“This argument eventually got to the point of name-calling, when she called me a cheap-a**…loudly and publicly in our hotel lobby.”
His intention was really to just understand who was going to be paying for their dinner in a calm way, though things clearly escalated in an insane manner.
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“Generally if you book a trip for someone, you cover everything unless you discuss it beforehand.”
“You don’t book a trip for someone, pick out some of the most expensive restaurants and activities, then suddenly spring even part of the bill on the person you’re treating.”
“What she did was rude, and then she was even worse by verbally assaulting you loudly in public after you tried to ask about it. I think she just showed you who she really is…and you should probably get out now.”
“Public freakouts over petty things are a huge redflag for me.”
“I could see a situation where she underestimated how much the trip would cost during the planning stages, and didn’t realize until they got there that she doesn’t actually have enough money to pay for everything.”
“…It’s absolutely ridiculous for her to plan a birthday weekend getaway then act upset that you weren’t prepared to spend ridiculous amounts of money so she doesn’t have to!!”
“She sounds either selfish and immature or incredibly out of touch with normal etiquette!”
“It’s probably some combination of both, but her final reaction and the over-the-top crap she said, in the end, means you can absolutely do much better and should just break it off!”
You can read the rest of the advice the internet had for her here.
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