She Threw A Death Party For The Man Who Stalked Her After She Found Out He Passed But She Wants The Internet To Tell Her If It Was In Poor Taste
A woman says that she used to have a male coworker that began harassing her at their place of work.
Then it escalated, and he started harassing her outside of the office, and popping up everywhere she went.
At first, she thought maybe it was all just a coincidence, but then it became apparent that it was intentional on his part.
She felt scared and upset about what her coworker was doing to her. She was so frightened that she went to the police, but they weren’t able to do anything to help her.
She felt she had no choice but to find a different job, a different apartment, and a different car in the hopes of ending his stalking.
She also stopped going to the places she normally frequented, and all of her friends had to leave a place they were if he showed up, which hurt them all as well.
“He basically became like a Boogeyman to me and my friend group,” she explained.
It’s now been around a year since she last saw him anywhere, but the fact that she stopped seeing him did not make her feel any safer.
“Then, we found out he had passed away, one of my friends saw an obituary online. It was really unexpected, he was young and healthy,” she said.
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“Riding on that high, I suggested our little group of friends have a party to celebrate.”
Her 5 best friends went out with her for a night out, which is something they were unable to do for a long time.
“We had a fun party, it was mostly just an excuse to get some friends together and let loose, but a few things happened that I know people might find distasteful,” she continued.
“We called it a “deathday party” and toasted to that. And when we went to pee we’d joke about “pouring one out for the deceased”.”
The night ended, life went on, and everything seemed fine, but then friends outside of her tight circle started hearing about what she had done.
“I said that the guy had died and I’d thrown a party, and some of my friends mentioned the toast, and some of the dark jokes,” she wrote.
It never occurred to her and her friends to be careful of their words, since they figured the rest of their friends would be understanding of their feelings.
It didn’t quite go that way though, and many of her friends accused her of being “distasteful,” “vindictive,” and “gross” for throwing the party in the first place.
It’s gotten so bad that the coaches of the sports team she plays on are considering kicking her out for being a bad representation of them all.
She really doesn’t get why so many people are not seeing things her way.
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“I was stalked and it wasn’t taken seriously. It greatly affected me and my family. Like our whole lives revolved around him.”
“The person in question is now in prison (unrelated charges but won’t be out for a good 10 years but he’s old so might die in jail).”
“The day he went to prison, I drank a whole bottle of champagne. When he dies, it’ll be 2…Stalkers never consider how their actions affect you. Your reaction is nobody else’s business.”
“Stalking is viewed as harmlessly weird or even ‘romantic’ by way too many people. My friend was murdered by her stalker, there were years of unsettling behavior and a flight to a different continent.”
“I know of a group of people who recently did the same for another reason and one of their acquaintances felt uncomfortable and left but those who were victims of the person who died are the only ones who would really understand what they went through when they were alive.”
“They would feel relief that they are gone now and won’t be able to do it to them or anyone else again.”
“So from the outside it might seem in bad taste but people cope in different ways.”
“Most women will sympathize with you since we deal with unwanted attention from a young age. We know how it feels to always feel slightly unsafe.”
“You had a literal boogeyman turn up from nowhere and terrorize you. Of course, you are going to celebrate the irrefutable proof that you will no longer be terrorized.”
“Even if he went to jail you would not have had the same certainty that your nightmare won’t start again once he is out.”
“You should still go for therapy, you may still have PTSD. May you live your best life going forward.”
You can read the rest of the advice the internet had for her here.
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