He Told His Wife She Needs To Get Over Her Ex Already But Now He’s Asking The Internet If He Should Apologize
A 34-year-old man is asking the internet if he should apologize to his 33-year-old wife after telling her she needs to get over her ex.
He started out by explaining that his wife used to be with this guy named Will. They dated throughout high school, and then Will dumped her during their sophomore year of college.
When his wife went to graduate school, she started things up with Will again, only to have him dump her for a second time when he attended medical school out of state.
His wife was in love with Will, and he stomped all over her heart not once, but twice. She did go on to date after Will, and some of those relationships were longer-term.
Before this man met his wife, he never fell in love with someone, and he never had his heart broken like she did.
He’s been married to his wife for 3 years, and they were with one another for 3 years before tying the knot.
A little more than one year ago, he was diagnosed as having leukemia, which really exhausted him and his wife mentally, physically, and emotionally.
Due to his diagnosis, he and his wife have had to isolate seriously since if he gets sick, he could end up dying.
He kind of has become like one of her girlfriends since then because she can’t spend time with anyone else.
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“6 or so months ago Will got engaged,” he said. “Understandably, we talked about it a handful of times. I get it.”
“My wife and I live in a town next to where she grew up and about 30 minutes north of where we went to college.”
“The past two months without fail we’ll drive past someplace that she has a memory with Will and inevitably that leads to a 30-minute story about going to prom 3 years or staying at a lake house, or whatever.”
“I feel like I’ve heard about Will every other day the past two months. I’ve quit caring; zero interest in hearing about my spouse’s ex.”
He’s tried changing the topic, he’s tried to being understanding and just listen, and he’s even tried to give her some semblance of advice, to which his wife replied that he doesn’t get it because he’s never had his heart broken.
Things came to a head the other day when he and his wife happened to drive by the condo that Will’s parents use for vacation.
His wife ended up telling him a 20-minute long story about Will before he cut her off.
“Will fatigue coupled with high dose steroids from treatment (which severely inhibits patients) led me to tell her it’s been 10 years and to get over it,” he continued.
After those words left his mouth it led to a fight between him and his wife. He’s concerned he might have been a jerk in saying what he did because he does not understand what it’s like to be heartbroken.
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“This is going to sound cold but if she doesn’t get some help and get over Will, you are going to experience a broken heart yourself.”
“Good Luck, I think you are going to need it.”
“She is your wife and Will is her high school/college boyfriend. She shouldn’t even really be batting an eye over the fact that Will is engaged.”
“The fact that she won’t stop talking about him for hours on end is a clear indication she’s not really over him.”
“Please see if she will go to couples counseling with you. If not, you may need to reevaluate your marriage entirely to see if she’s really still in it.”
“Not gonna lie…it’s weird…your wife is still hurt over someone from ten years ago when she’s been with you for 6 years……and well…She’s YOUR wife.”
“It doesn’t matter if you haven’t had a broken heart before, not fully moving on after a decade is not normal.”
“Especially when you are….married. Sounds like you two really need to get an online marriage counselor and figure out what’s really going on.”
“This is just really strange.”
“I think that is really disrespectful of her and it’s like she is trying to make you jealous. I still see my high school boyfriend fairly frequently.”
“We were in the same group of friends back then and we broke up when he left for college. I was pretty distraught, you know, first love and all.”
“But, I know my husband doesn’t really want to hear old stories like sh*t I did with my ex and I don’t want to hear stuff he did with his old flames either.”
“Nothing good comes of comparing past relationships to current relationships. She needs to quit living in the past unless she wants to ruin her future.”
You can read the rest of the advice the internet had for him here.
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