His Wife Wants To Name Their Son After Her Dead Coworker He’s Never Even Heard Of And He’s Asking The Internet If It’s Ok To Be Really Uneasy About This
A 30-year-old man and his 30-year-old wife are expecting their firstborn child soon. They know they are having a boy, and so several weeks back they started working on names for their son.
His wife really loves modern, Southern names, such as Braxton or Kaysen, which are on their baby name list.
It really threw him for a loop though when his wife picked out Scott and stuck that right at the top of the list.
Obviously, that’s not a modern or Southern name, so he really had no idea why she picked that out as an important potential name for their son.
He did ask his wife about the name and why she was so into it, but she did not give him an answer about it.
Since he is fond of the name, he dropped it all entirely and that was it. Two days ago, this man and his wife sat down to pick out the final name for their son, and they chose Scott for his first name, which both made them happy.
“As we were going to bed I asked how she thought of the name Scott and she admitted to me that now that I “set it in stone” that she felt more comfortable telling me,” he explained.
“There was an older man she apparently worked with, who I had never heard of before, that she really loved named Scott.”
“She said he was 66 and gave her a lot of life advice and guidance but died last year due to being immunocompromised.”
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Well, right after she finally told him the meaning behind Scott, he was extremely uneasy about the situation.
As he said, he has never even heard of this coworker, and he thinks it’s just so strange for his wife to want to name their baby after her dead coworker.
He then questioned his wife on if she had reached out to Scott’s family to make sure they were alright with her wanting to name their son after him, but she said she didn’t since she doesn’t know them.
“She wants to actively make posts linking to his Facebook about our child’s growth and development,” he added.
“I feel like it was a little… weird to do without asking his family if they’re comfortable with that especially since they’ve never met.”
“That’s why I thought she knew his family because she was telling me the hashtag she created for it and everything.”
Eventually, he insisted to his wife they couldn’t name their son Scott because he is so uncomfortable with the whole situation.
She didn’t take that well and started a fight with him. Her sister and her mom even got involved and think he’s terrible for not agreeing with the name.
He’s also feeling upset that his wife will not give him any information on this coworker of hers, and it is important for him to know more about this man she wants to name their son for.
Additionally, he feels his wife was misleading about the name since she was not upfront with why she liked it, and that bothers him a lot.
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“Sounds like her and Scott were more than just co-workers. Get a DNA test.”
“Frankly, I think it’s telling she didn’t share the meaning or importance to her until you settled on the name.”
“It seems like she knew you wouldn’t be ok with it and that’s why she didn’t tell you until you’d accepted it. That is not ok.”
“Since it sounds to me like if you’d had that information from the beginning that you wouldn’t have settled on it, that exonerates you, in my mind.”
“She, on the other hand, lied. You directly asked her where it came from and she didn’t tell you.”
“…Even before getting into the deceit part, wanting to name your baby after a coworker you knew casually (mentor or no, clearly they didn’t spend much legitimate friendship time together if you never met him) is a really…cringey thing to do.”
“Frankly, I think you’re preventing your wife from embarrassing herself and avoiding a lot of uncomfortable moments in the future.”
“The fact that she wants to publicly link baby announcements to her dead coworker’s memorialized Facebook page (which is, and no disrespect to your wife here, but it’s unhinged) suggests that she thinks people would understand/be on board with or even enthusiastic/touched by that as a normal or even sweet thing to do (it is not, it’s really effing weird), so I can envision her excitedly wanting to talk about deceased Scott’s connection to your baby and getting upset when your family friends are uncomfortable and weirded out rather than enthusiastic.”
“Long story short: you’re in the right here, and your wife seems to have a bit of a delusional streak about what counts as a) a close friend and b) appropriate close friend behavior.”
“Clearly this is more than a mentorship thing between them. Otherwise, why the lockdown on information and no relationship with family?”
“It’s absolutely WEIRD that she wants to link to the deceased’s social media and very inappropriate towards the family as well.”
“If my dad died and some woman he worked with started making posts of her kid and tagging them to my dad’s account I would start questioning if my dad had been unfaithful to my mum.”
You can read the rest of what the internet had to say about all this here.
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