He Wants To Adopt His Brother And He’s Telling The Internet His Wife Is Mad At Him Because Of This
A 28-year-old man has been married to his wife, who is the same age as him, for 2 years now and they are currently expecting a baby.
Around a month ago, his parents very unexpectedly passed away, leaving his 14-year-old brother orphaned.
“My parents died in a car crash about a month ago and my brother(14M) has nobody to turn to except me,” he explained. “We have no other living relatives.”
“I decided to take in my brother until he’s an adult but my wife feels like it’s not our responsibility to care for my brother and since she’s pregnant, she wants me to focus only on our child.”
He pushed back on his wife, pointing out that his brother literally is homeless with no options, and he wants his brother to live with them.
His heartless wife doesn’t seem to care at all though and is fine with his brother being adopted by strangers.
“She’s mad at me and is refusing to talk to me unless I put my brother up for adoption,” he continued.
He added that it won’t be difficult on him and his wife from a financial standpoint to adopt his brother, because his parents left his brother and him an inheritance.
Additionally, his parents had money set aside to pay for his brother’s college, and he can always use that to help take care of his brother if money ever becomes an issue.
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Here’s what the internet had to say.
“That’s your only living relative by blood. Ask her how would she feel if you have a child and they put your younger child up for adoption if you died.”
“She’s about to be a mother and she’s turning away your sibling? So many things are wrong with this equation. Put her up for adoption.”
“This post breaks my heart because it seems you aren’t getting the support you need to help you with your grief. Your wife needs to step up.”
“Life doesn‘t always go to our plans and dreams, and hopefully she can get over her disappointment.”
“Honestly when faced with the awfulness of what your brother is going through, what kind of heartlessness, what lack of empathy, to not want to help him out…”
“WTF is wrong with her. I have a 14 year age difference with my baby brother and from the beginning, my husband (then boyfriend) knew I wanted him to live with us if anything happened to my parents.”
“Turns out my sister and her boyfriend (now husband) had the same chat. So my brother is lucky his sisters and their husbands would have been fighting over him! (Nicely of course and we would have resolved it calmly!) And that is utterly normal behavior and both his brothers-in-law were on board.”
“Your brother needs a home. It’s a big decision and big change for your household so I understand theoretically that it should be a conversation with your wife and a decision you make together.”
“But what else is the kid going to do, go to foster care? And if it’s not your responsibility as the only living relative then whose responsibility is it?”
“Mostly your wife kinda sucks for not jumping on this no-brainer decision with an emphatic yes. It may end up being a not great situation for your brother. Are you sure you want to put him through that?”
“Keep the brother, lose the wife.”
“It’s about 4 years till baby bro goes to college. That’s 4 years they get to help baby bro, and maybe baby bro can help them. I don’t see how this is a negative at all.”
“This is a moment where this kid’s life is falling apart, and all she can think of is that her husband won’t pay attention to their newborn potato.”
“You and your brother just lost your parents, and your wife wants you to put him up for adoption?? That’s one of the coldest, cruelest things I’ve ever heard.”
“Your wife sounds totally selfish and heartless! If she really loved you, she wouldn’t ask you to do such a thing. You will never forgive yourself for even considering doing that to your only sibling, let alone if you actually do it.”
“If your wife is trying to make you choose, that speaks volumes about the kind of person she is, so I really hope you’ll choose your brother. He needs you more than she does.”
You can read the rest of the advice the internet had for him here.
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