He’s Almost Done Divorcing His Wife And He’s Telling The Internet That When She Complained About Being A Single Mom He Reminded Her That’s What She Signed On For
A man is almost done divorcing his wife, and they’re divorcing over the fact that she went ahead with a pregnancy even though they both agreed to never have kids.
3 years ago, he underwent a vasectomy since he knew he never wanted to have children of his own because he doesn’t like children and has known all along that he didn’t ever want to be a dad.
He underwent the procedure around the same time that he met his almost ex-wife, and he made it very clear to her that he did not want kids.
His almost ex-wife also agreed that she did not want kids, and she even went so far as to tell him that if she ever wound up pregnant, she would terminate the pregnancy.
Somehow, even though he got the vasectomy and even though they used multiple methods of BC, his almost ex-wife got pregnant anyway.
He was floored to find out the news, and he initially thought that she had to have cheated on him. Three paternity tests later (two prenatal and one post-birth), and it turns out that he is the dad.
When his almost ex-wife first got pregnant, she was considering terminating the pregnancy but then she decided against it.
He did also bring up adoption, but she was not alright with this option either. He did remind his almost ex-wife that they both agreed to never have kids, but she still wanted to keep their unborn baby.
“And I didn’t want a child,” he explained. “We tried therapy for months but that took us nowhere.”
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“After the baby was born I tried to see if I’d feel anything for him or maybe I could get into fatherhood after all.”
“Honestly it’s just not where I wanted to be, her and I decided we were on two very different paths with no reconciliation possible.”
“He’s almost gonna be 4 months old and I just recently moved out while we proceed with the divorce.”
His almost ex-wife has been raising the baby entirely on her own, and her sister does occasionally help out, but he’s not in the picture in any way, shape, or form.
The court is currently handling child support that he’s required to pay, but aside from that, he’s never going to be a part of his child’s life.
His divorce is almost finalized and he recently stopped by the house he shared with his almost ex-wife to get the rest of his belongings.
It took him a few hours to pack everything into his truck, and while he was doing that, his almost ex-wife took the opportunity to complain to him about how difficult it is on her.
She even mentioned it would be so much easier if he would be involved with their child and help, but he never agreed to do that, and he made that so crystal clear.
“Like did she not understand why we’re divorcing at all? The whole point of it was because she wanted to be a mom and I didn’t want to be a dad, which means no involvement,” he said.
“And that’s when I told her that line along with reminding her she knew I never wanted to have kids and we talked about different options from the very beginning.”
After he piped up about that, she stopped speaking to him, and then her sister chewed him out.
He’s struggling with the fact that he essentially threw it in her face that she picked being a single mom, and he knows she’s going through a really tough time without him pointing that out to her.
“I mean it’s an emotional time for everyone especially her,” he continued.
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“No judgments. If you were upfront AND you’re going to pay child support, you’re doing all you’re capable of legally and emotionally.”
“She made a deliberate choice after promising otherwise. You are still on the hook financially which I don’t even think is fair. But that’s the law.”
“Some jurisdictions allow compensation for “wrongful pregnancy” arising from a failed vasectomy. You may want to look into this in your jurisdiction. (Don’t confuse this with wrongful birth; totally different thing).”
“She DID choose this and if she’s going to…moan she needs to be reminded of that. My husband and I are both childfree.”
“I got sterilized seven years ago and after my three-month follow-up, I was cleared good to go, no more chance of getting pregnant. If I were to get pregnant I would absolutely abort and my husband is right there with me. Neither one of us is capable of caring for a child.”
“Don’t let anyone try to tell you that you’re s*** for “abandoning a baby”. You didn’t want it. Let the courts handle child support, see if you can sign your rights away. You don’t have to be involved. I’m sorry you’re going through this.”
“She tried to throw the fact you didn’t wanna be a dad in your face like it was your fault she was having a hard time.”
“Choices (her words, and deciding to have a baby) equal consequences. She had to have known having a baby wasn’t going to be easy.”
“Even with two parents, it’s hard as hell. She knew what she was getting into and it’s not on you to guard her feelings. She should have just let you get your stuff and move on.”
“It wasn’t necessary for you to say anything. But, it’s not ok for her to try and guilt you or make her decision to have a child your fault.”
“She obviously assumed that you would come around to fatherhood. You haven’t and no offense but the kid is better off without you being in his life.”
You can read the rest of what the internet had to say here.
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