She Didn’t Invite Her Sister To Her Wedding Because She Doesn’t Want To Have To Deal With Her On What’s Supposed To Be One Of The Most Special Days Of Her Life
A young woman and her sister were both adopted by their parents when they were extremely young.
Her big sister was adopted as a baby and she was adopted when she was 11-month-old. Their parents did tell them that they had been adopted, and tried to be as honest as they could with them about why they were adopted.
As soon as her sister turned 16, she set out to find her birth parents and incorporate them into their existing family.
Her sister then tried to pressure her into doing the same thing, but she didn’t have any interest in finding her biological parents at all.
Her sister accused her of being selfish and wrong for not wanting to find her biological family.
“It actually didn’t get better as we both grew into adults,” she explained. “Once she met her birth family she was even more hellbent on me finding mine.”
“She attempted to find them herself and tried to get an Ancestry thing going without telling me (one Christmas she was being weird about me cleaning up when I finished drinking, etc, and where my hairbrush was that I confronted her and she admitted what she was up to).”
“She even reached out to the social worker over my case on my behalf.”
She was furious at her sister for continuing to push her into finding her biological family, and in turn, her sister was furious with her for not agreeing to it.
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Meanwhile, their mom and dad were absolutely crushed to see this issue tearing the both of them apart and causing so much fighting.
“My sister turned on them at one point and told them they should have made me seek out my birth family, that it was them being selfish not making me, how maybe they stole me or some sh*t or maybe they had made my birth family out to be worse than they were,” she said.
“My parents told her to stop. That adoption is so personal for everyone and our journeys could never be the same, so she needed to stop trying to force me.”
Her sister made all of this so absolutely awful that she really doesn’t want anything to do with the biological family her sister found and is trying to force on everyone.
She also does not spend a lot of time around her sister anymore because of everything that happened.
Now, she’s getting married next month, and the thing is, she did not invite her sister to be there on her big day.
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When her sister realized she was not going to get an invitation, she was devastated.
“I told her I didn’t want to deal with her on my wedding day,” she continued. “That she would destroy it with her pushing me, with accusing our parents of hiding sh*t or being sh*tty parents for not pushing, with her sneaking around behind my back.”
She made it clear to her sister that because she can’t trust her at all, she can’t have her at the wedding with her.
She does feel awful that her big sister won’t be there for what’s supposed to be one of the most special days of her life, but her sister causes her so much anguish that it’s not worth it for her to take a risk.
How would you feel in this situation?
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