A Girl That He Has A Crush On Is Trying To Help Him Figure Out If He Should Not Get Married To His Fiancée

A man has a fiancée that he’s currently in a long-distance relationship with because of their jobs.
They do get together once every two months, and they cannot move in together until after their wedding.
He proposed to his fiancée one year ago, and now that they are having some problems in their relationship, he’s struggling to understand if it’s because of the distance between them, or if it’s because they have real problems.
Recently, he made a female friend through work, and they hung out with other people that they know outside of their workplace.
This friend of his began sending him messages, and they started chatting more and more throughout this past summer.
“For a while before, I had started feeling more and more anxious about getting married. It’s since become overwhelming and currently, the thought of it is terrifying me,” he explained.
“The friend and I began to message more and more regularly until it became a daily thing. We are both busy people but she messages me at least 4-5 times a day…sometimes double messaging and with essays.”
“There would be a lot of banter but we also had intellectual chat. This is when I started to like her, but I thought that it was a phase like my fear of getting married.”
“I realized that I should be talking to her less because of the feelings I was getting but it was a little addictive to talk with her.”

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“Plus, she had called me out, about leaving her messages on ‘read’ even though the conversation ended. Other times she restarted it and usually asks questions to keep that chat going.”
While he was chatting with his female friend and developing a crush on her, he was having problems with his fiancée.
He was disagreeing and arguing with his fiancée on a lot of different topics, and he revealed this to his female friend.
“I feel like an idiot because now the friend is trying to help me figure out if I should stay or break things off,” he said.
“I can’t tell if she likes me but she seems to be wanting the best for me but at the same time pushing me to be active about the situation.”
His female friend is not encouraging him to make more of an effort in his relationship, and she’s also not giving him the advice of ending things.
His friend is encouraging him to be more clear about what he really does want, and he’s feeling quite confused.
“I don’t know how to deal with the situation anymore,” he continued. “I want to know if the friend likes me back…but I also don’t want to just walk away from the engagement.”
He knows he owes it to his fiancée to keep trying in their relationship, but he’s thinking things between them are hopeless since all they do is argue.
His friend is really influencing his decision-making process with whether or not he should end things with his fiancée and call off the wedding.
“I don’t want to end things with the fiancée because of the friend, I want to know that I am ending things because it didn’t work out but I’m so confused right now, that I can’t tell,” he mentioned.
He’s left wondering if he can really fix things with his fiancée and if his friend also likes him the way that he likes her.
How would you handle this situation?
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