She Told Her Brother That His Pregnancy Announcement Was Trashy And She’s Asking The Internet If It Really Was Rude Of Her To Do

One woman’s family does this voluntary gift exchange with adults in their family, and everyone that signs up for the exchange needs to spend $20 on each person/gift.
They keep a Google Doc that lists out everyone in the gift exchange, along with what each person would like as a gift, their favorite snacks, their size in clothing, etc.
The gift exchange is very straightforward, and they exchange the gifts they get for one another after the children in the family go to bed for the night.
So, her 34-year-old sister-in-law Kelsey is married to her 30-year-old brother Kyle, and they each signed up for the gift exchange.
Kelsey and Kyle wanted to go last to exchange their gifts since they mentioned that they “had something special they wanted everyone to open together.”
“Everyone else followed the list and got people something they would like,” she explained. “Kelsey and Kyle spent $5 per person.”
“It was a sonogram picture in a cheap dollar store frame, a note saying “$35 has been donated to the baby in your name” and a 2XL shirt with puffy paint that said BABY BELLA 2022.”
And by money donated to the baby, Kelsey and Kyle meant that they took money that was supposed to be spent on the gifts and put it into a college fund for their baby.
“It was literally to Baby Bella’s college fund,” she added.
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“They didn’t donate to help sick babies or save the penguins. They literally just hand-wrote out little cards that were like “hmmm, we kept the money, we are likely gonna use it for our kid.”
Everyone in the family was congratulating Kelsey and Kyle on their upcoming new addition, and then her dad asked if they would like to finish the gift exchange.
Kelsey then told everyone that their pregnancy announcement was the gift. Kyle left the room to use the restroom, and her dad went after him to argue about the presents.
Kyle wound up leaving, and Kelsey followed suit. “My Dad was like, “Everyone can take their gifts back for Kyle and Kelsey, because this is bull****, and they knew exactly what they were doing,” she continued.
Some family members did follow through with taking back the gifts they got for Kelsey and Kyle, while the rest of the family decided to wait for things to cool off before leaving to drive home.
Two days after this blowout, Kyle came to her house and presented her with an apology, along with a “real present.”
Kyle was clearly angry, and he revealed that Kelsey had been sobbing since they left the gift exchange. He blamed their dad for destroying their surprise pregnancy announcement.
Kyle then wanted her to tell him if she had liked the pregnancy announcement present, and she let Kyle know that she didn’t like it at all.
“I said well, everyone else got you a real present, with thought put into it,” she concluded.
“You didn’t even get me a shirt that fit, that was printed professionally, and then spent the majority of the money on yourself. It felt cheap and ruined the spirit of the exchange.”
Kyle couldn’t take her honesty and left her house. She’s wondering if she really was rude for telling Kyle the truth.
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“People need to stop thinking that somehow their baby is a gift to others. Other people can be excited for you and glad of a new baby in the family and supportive – but it is not a birthday gift or a Christmas gift or a wedding gift.”
“They are excited because they love you and want you to be happy- but much like you going on vacation makes you happy but not really them so much, so goes a baby.”
“The only exception is grandparents to be that are wayyyy too invested in their children pro-creating, and still it is more polite to get them a real gift and save the announcement for something you host yourself.”
“Who the hell thinks it’s socially acceptable to spend money on themselves and pretend it’s a gift for someone else?”
“And 2x sweatshirts for everyone? That just smacks of “The dollar store had these on clearance, so even less money to spend on someone else.”
“Good for your Dad. People like Kyle and Kelsey get away with things like this because everyone else tends to value decorum above fairness.”
“And he’s quite right – there’s no way that they thought a ‘donation in your name’ to their wallet was a decent gift, they just bet that no-one would call them on it.”
“I’m getting memories of Seinfeld when George handed out Christmas cards that told people a donation was made in their name to the “Human Fund.”
“If they hadn’t signed up for the official exchange (so they don’t get gifts) then took out these gifts at the end, that would have been a different story.”
“I would rather they donated it to a charity than kept it for themselves. Trashy is right.”
“They basically piggybacked their pregnancy announcement off of an unrelated event just to save $40?”
“I don’t know their financial situation but they could’ve done a million things differently (e.g. not participate in the voluntary gift exchange, not redirect $35 to “the baby,” i.e. themselves, etc.).”
“I hate when people leverage children or life occasions to get away with bad behavior. They knew what they were doing.”
“They were counting on the rest of you feeling too uncomfortable protesting since it was related to a baby announcement and your dad called them on it.”
“Putting all that aside, they committed one of the more annoying, entitled sins – hijacking another person’s event or a group experience for themselves.”
You can read the rest of what the internet had to say here.
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