Her Daughter Passed Away So This Mom Gave Her Christmas And Birthday Presents To Her Daughter’s Best Friend: She’s Asking The Internet If It Was Wrong To Not Give Them To Her Siblings

A mom had a 13-year-old daughter who very sadly passed away several weeks prior to Christmas. Her daughter had brain cancer and was not doing that well.
She knew this most likely would be the final Christmas that their family would get to spend with her, and her final birthday.
Her daughter’s birthday is just a few days after Christmas, and so she and her husband and the rest of their loved ones pulled out all the stops for her daughter’s presents.
“She has a best friend (15) with leukemia,” she explained. “They were in the hospital at the same time a lot over the past few years and became very close very fast.”
“They hung out every day and would play video games together, they learned how to dye hair (both of them wore wigs that are safe to dye), and how to do nail art and elaborate makeup looks.”
The mom of her daughter’s friend used to be a teacher in middle school prior to her own daughter getting sick, so she began teaching her daughter entirely out of the goodness of her heart.
The mom of her daughter’s friend made sure to come to their house or her daughter’s hospital room so she could help her daughter with science, history, math, and English.
Her daughter’s friend had two older sisters, 30 and 20, who also came to their house several times to help her and her husband take a break from things, and they did it all for free.
“She was going to spend Christmas and her birthday in the hospital this year so we had all of her presents in her hospital room,” she said.
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“When she passed, we couldn’t bring her presents home knowing she wouldn’t be there to open them so we gave her presents to her best friend, who was also in the hospital at the time.”
Then, several of her family members questioned her about what she had done with her daughter’s presents, so she told them the truth.
She told her loved ones it hurt her too much to bring her daughter’s presents home, so she and her husband gifted them to her best friend.
Well, none of the family members understood where she was coming from, and they were not happy she gave her daughter’s presents away.
Her family members thought it would have been a better idea for her to give her daughter’s presents to her 8-year-old daughter and 10-year-old son.
“I tried to explain that it was too hard for us to bring them home when she won’t open them then watch her siblings open her gifts but they didn’t believe me,” she continued.
“The gifts were expensive (my parents got her an iPad and my MIL and FIL got her a Nintendo switch and games and her aunts and uncles got her hair dye, expensive makeup, and nail art supplies) and I can see why they’re upset…”
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“You were trying to do something generous for someone your daughter was close with, I’m amazed anyone would have asked about the gifts at all.”
“They probably thought the Nintendo switch would be shared with the kids. And an iPad is a very expensive gift to give away.”
“Also, remember these people are grieving and are probably looking at something to be angry about because being angry at a girl losing her battle isn’t logical… but it is one of the steps of grief.”
“I’m just wondering what the siblings got… it must be hard for the little ones. A child with cancer needs much more and special attention, and it can be hard to be the “healthy” child, especially for little kids, because they might not understand why there isn’t much time and attention left for them.”
“And if their sick sibling gets expensive and exciting gifts and they are left out, then for the children, not the adult family members, I can understand that it’s hard (the gift part, the sickness part is obviously hard for everyone).”
“I mean getting less attention and less gifts and then losing their sibling, that’s so much to handle for a child all at once. Not getting less gifts or less expensive ones, but feeling less loved or important because of it.”
“All in all I just hope they are doing as well as they can after something so devastating.”
“I feel this. My mom died last Jan. The day after she died, my dad and I were looking through her clothes for what we wanted to send to the funeral home.”
“My dad picked up a bathrobe and told me how he’d just given it to her for Christmas. This sight of him standing there clutching that robe is one of the most heartbreaking things I have ever seen.”
“You’re wonderful people. I’m so sorry for your loss. Respectfully, you are under tremendous pressure.”
“I wouldn’t care if you had thrown the presents out the window. Giving them to her friend was a lovely gesture.”
You can read the rest of what the internet had to say here.
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