She Went On An Incredible First Date With A Guy She Met Online, But She’s Worried That He’s Not So Into Her
Everyone knows that first dates are intimidating and insanely difficult to get right. But what happens when you have a stellar first date, and your potential partner just does not seem that into you?
A twenty-six-year-old woman is struggling to figure out this sticky situation with a man she met on Bumble.
“The date went pretty much perfectly on my end. I was physically attracted to him, which only increased the more we spoke, and we just had a great connection,” the woman said.
She and her date had loads of topics to talk about, and the woman got to see how intelligent, respectful, and sweet her Bumble match is.
“I expected the date to only last about an hour max, but it ended up lasting almost three hours. It only ended because I had to go to my mom’s for dinner,” she explained.
The woman’s date also texted her immediately after to arrange a second date. What more could a girl ask for, right? Well, she is not so sure that he feels the same.
“In spite of all of this, I’m still not convinced that he’s actually attracted to me. When I talk to guys on dating apps, they shower me with compliments most of the time. And, those compliments are usually related to my appearance,” the woman explained.
“However, this guy has only complimented me a small handful of times– none of which related to my appearance.”
She also noticed other supposed red flags during their date. The man did not make eye contact and spent most of his time looking across the room or toward his lap.
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“Surely, if a guy is interested in a girl, he’d make intense eye contact with her, right?” the woman wondered.
The pair also engaged in a lot of banter during their evening out. Although, the woman is worried that the playfulness was just his personality and not an effort to flirt with her.
“The only thing he did which was outright flirtatious was asking me to lean closer so he could take a look at my eye color,” the woman recalled.
Now, she is nervous that her date only finds her “cool” or “interesting,” rather than attractive– viewing her as a potential friend rather than a partner.
“Don’t get me wrong, I really appreciate the fact that he seems to actually like me as a person and cares about what I have to say. But, having confirmation that he actually is attracted to me would be great, too,” the woman said, “At the end of the day, no matter how great our mental connection is, I am looking for a partner.”
The woman also added that her apprehensiveness could be due to years of feeling inadequate, which many can relate to.
“As a result, I struggle to fathom the idea that someone could truly find me attractive. So, my insecurities may be clouding my judgment,” the woman reasoned.
Nonetheless, the woman enlisted Reddit users to help her navigate this situation. Her tale also inspires other questions about dating do’s and don’t’s.
Is showing affection always a given on the first date? At what point do you expect to be wooed with more than conversation?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
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