She Dumped One Of Her Bridesmaids For Being Jealous
One young woman is set to be getting married in a bit, and she did ask a friend of hers to be a bridesmaid a while ago, even though she didn’t think this friend was the best person to include in her special day.
At the time she asked this friend to be one of her bridesmaids, she felt that she should since she doesn’t like to disappoint anyone.
Her friend is overly sensitive and has always been envious of the other women she has been friends with.
She was hoping that inviting her friend to be part of her wedding could help them improve their friendship while preventing any issues between them, but that wasn’t how things turned out at all.
“Her jealousy intensified, she made wedding demands that were financially unreasonable, and her passive aggressive vague-posting on social media (something she’s always been notorious for) seemed to start targeting me,” she explained.
Things really blew up though when her friend accused her of being “a bad friend” to other people that they know since she wasn’t able to spend a lot of time with her in lockdown.
This accusation greatly upset her and she did talk to her friend about it. She decided that instead of continuing to be hurt by this, she would do her best to go more out of her way to make her friend feel special for her wedding.
So, for 18 months after that, she bent over backward for her friend, while her friend wasn’t as invested in their friendship.
“At that point, our friendship was toxic,” she said. “It felt like I did all the work. Our ability to trust and be honest was broken.”
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“Her vague-posting intensified. As I was constantly anxious at the thought of managing her and her insecurities at my wedding, I knew I needed to be honest, but unfortunately, she was already emotionally vulnerable from a separate family issue.”
She was aware that she had to dump her friend as a bridesmaid right then and there, even if it wasn’t good timing at all.
She took a lot of time to write her friend a message that was as polite as could be, and she outlined to her friend that they weren’t really close enough at that point to have her be in the wedding.
She did let her friend know that she was interested in still being friends, but her friend did not take this news well.
“At first, she said she expected it and understood, but slowly became angrier, calling me an unforgivable liar, coward, and bad friend,” she continued.
“Now she’s refused to attend my wedding at all and said I won’t be invited to hers.”
She has since watched her friend make an enormous effort with other friends, and it makes her feel awful.
She is convinced that if her friend had not used and abused her as a “social crutch” they still would have a healthy friendship.
Regardless, she’s concerned that she was wrong for dumping her friend as a bridesmaid. What do you think?
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