This Relationship Expert Is Going Viral For 3 Pointing Out Things We Need To Normalize In All Relationships
Relationship expert and author Rachel DeAlto took to her Tik Tok page to post three reminders to recontextualize our intimate relationships.
This Tik Tok can give you solid tips that may be a game-changer for anyone struggling with their partner.
She told her viewers that it’s okay to get bored. “They are not here to entertain you,” and that isn’t your responsibility either.
She expands this to include a less than thrilling phone call or conversation, saying, “It doesn’t mean the relationship is bad or over.”
She also affirmed some of the rocky relationship moments that seem to have little to nothing to do with your partner.
She said, “it’s okay to have a rollercoaster of feelings,” and that it’s okay if you’re not 100 percent present in your relationship at all times.
For example, a friend of hers was under a lot of stress and wanted to break up with her partner. Rachel told her, “don’t make any big decisions when you’re stressed.”
She backed up this maxim with logic that holds up, advising viewers to separate negative feelings about their job or lifestyle from their partners.
TikTok; pictured above is Rachel
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“Everything else around you is going to impact the way you feel in your relationship,” she confirmed.
One commenter agreed, writing, “don’t make permanent decisions based on temporary emotions.”
Her last tip for relationship maintenance is to accept that “attraction levels can change” at any moment.
So even if you aren’t thinking of your partner in a flattering light one day, it doesn’t mean that the spark is necessarily gone forever.
Ultimately, long-term relationships require long-term choices, which also have to happen on the days when you might not be feeling up for them.
A particularly wise commenter responded to Rachel’s reminders, saying, “It’s a daily choice. Daily commitment. Feelings go up & down. Can’t make a permanent decision on that.”
@racheldealto Let’s normalize these in #relationships #relationshipexpert #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice
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