She Was Dating A Guy Who Really Pursued Her And Even Said He Loved Her Before Claiming They Got Too Serious Too Quickly

Friends Stock - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purpose only, not the actual person
Friends Stock - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purpose only, not the actual person

A 23-year-old woman was dating a guy 3 years older than her, but she wasn’t even that interested in him when she met him.

She started dating him in January and she agreed to go on several dates with him. While she did have an enjoyable time, it wasn’t like sparks were flying for her.

As March came to an end, this guy shockingly said to her that he was positive he was falling for her.

“He was so amazing, cooked me dinner, and always wanted to see me,” she explained. “It was him who constantly initiated everything because I admit I wasn’t really crazy for him yet.”

As the days went by though, she did feel very interested in him, but they both agreed that it was best not to rush anything and take their time.

Sometime in April, this guy phoned her up after getting a bit of liquid courage, and he confessed that he “hated” that they were not officially boyfriend and girlfriend.

“I was so happy because I was also thinking the same,” she said. “And so we became official. However, after a week or two, I sensed that he was pulling away.”

“He didn’t answer my snaps for hours, I saw him maybe twice a week, and I felt like I was just annoying him. I even cried myself to sleep a couple of times because I was so confused.”

This guy constantly told her that he was in love with her, and he even revealed that he thought he wouldn’t be able to fall in love before he met her…but then he claimed to have too much going on to spend any time with her.

Friends Stock – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purpose only, not the actual person

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On the rare occasion when they would get together, he spent the entire time on his phone, more interested in his games than her.

One night while they were hanging out, he wanted to know why she wasn’t saying much, and she confided in him that she felt as if he no longer liked her at all.

His response to her was that he did still like her, though he was feeling that their relationship was just too much responsibility, and “it got serious so fast.”

She couldn’t help but sob as he said that, especially since he was the one who really pursued her, said he loved her and then claimed it was too much too quickly.

Despite him insisting everything was too serious for him at that point, he wanted to talk through everything with her, but she was just too overcome with emotion to have any sort of conversation with him.

She wound up leaving his apartment that evening, and she was disappointed that he didn’t try to call her or text her after she left.

Later on, she decided to pour her heart out to him in a text, but he didn’t even have the decency to respond to her.

A day later, she again texted him, asking if it would be possible for them to sit down and chat, and still, he was silent.

She decided to try again and say that she was willing to work on things in their relationship as long as he would give her some kind of an answer, but he refused to reply to her.

Eventually, he replied saying that he was willing to speak to her, then he went back on that and claimed to be too busy to meet up and take a few minutes out of his day to chat about where they stood.

“I basically told him that I had to cut him off because this was just too painful,” she continued. “I mean, he can’t take 20-30 mins of his day to work things out with someone he supposedly loves?”

After she resolved to cut him out of her life and move on, he called her up after having a few drinks, saying he was ready to talk and knew he messed up.

She didn’t hear from him after that though, and she’s still going to go down the path of cutting him off, yet something gives her pause.

She wants this guy to not let her go so easily. She wants real answers. She wants him to fix her broken heart.

She’s left feeling bewildered and backstabbed. Why do you think this guy went from confessing his love for her to essentially ghosting her?

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