His Wife Is A Stay-At-Home Mom, And He No Longer Wants To Fund Her Spending Money Because She Does Not Contribute To Their Income
Before this man and his wife had their daughter, they both worked full-time in middle-earning jobs. His wife earned a bit more than he did, but not a lot.
Then, after welcoming their daughter, his wife was forced to return to work when she was three months old.
“Her mental health became pretty bad, and she has a minor disability that makes work life a little tough. And she found it worse after having our daughter, but we had to do what we had to do,” he recalled.
Then, once their daughter was six months old, his wife’s grandmother, who basically raised her, sadly passed away.
Nonetheless, his wife inherited everything she owned– which was a considerable chunk of change.
In fact, it was enough for the couple to buy a decent house outright, purchase two new cars, and even put some money away for a comfortable retirement.
Plus, after her grandmother died, his wife quit her job and became a stay-at-home mom.
“It was partially due to grief and struggles at her job, and a bit because she always would have preferred to stay home with our daughter anyway,” he explained.
Honestly, though, he was kind of bummed about it. Apparently, he would have liked to be a stay-at-home dad, too, and has been forced to “suck it up” in order to continue providing income for his family.
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And this became a much bigger problem recently when his wife asked to have a conversation about budgeting.
She had been dipping into her savings to “pull her weight” in their bills. But, she wanted to figure out how they could learn to live off of just his income.
He was nowhere near happy about her proposition, though, and basically told her he would not fund her life.
“I said that if I am the one who has to work, and I’d rather not, then I don’t think I should have to spend my money funding her hobbies and spending money,” he said.
“If she chooses not to work, then she can buy clothes at the charity shop instead of new ones and get a friend to cut her hair for free.”
“Or, she can get a job working a night shift, start an online business, or do something to fund her spending money.”
He also believes she should not have her gym membership or sewing materials paid for since they do not benefit him and “are not his responsibility.”
Understandably, though, she said he was being completely unfair and pointed out how he gets to enjoy hobbies such as his own gym membership and video game habits.
She also brought up her inheritance and cited how it was worth more than if she spent her entire life working.
So, without it, they never would have been able to afford their home or cars.
Regardless, though, he still does not want to fund his wife’s spending money simply because she is not actively working right now.
In turn, he has been left wondering if that makes him a complete jerk.
Do you think his wife has a right to be upset? What would you do in his shoes?
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