She Uninvited Her Recently Widowed Brother From A Family Dinner Party Because He Kept Crying About Losing His Wife
About two months ago, this twenty-nine-year-old woman’s brother tragically lost his wife to cancer.
And the loss was absolutely world-shattering for her brother, who ended up isolating himself from their entire family for two weeks following his wife’s passing.
Despite this being completely understandable, though, her parents really began to worry about her brother. So, they started inviting him to family events at their house– but the get-togethers never panned out as planned.
“He agrees to come, but then at some point, if someone mentions his wife– even just her name– he begins to sob. I am not exaggerating,” she explained.
In fact, the “sobbing” is apparently so extreme that entire gatherings will turn utterly awkward in a matter of seconds. Plus, she and her family have no idea how to come back from that and salvage the event afterward.
So anyway, her brother’s emotional outbursts have occurred three times already. And last week, when it was her turn to host a family dinner, she was pretty concerned.
“I’m not going to lie; my husband and I were worried the same thing would happen again. And my husband said that it would be almost impossible for no one to mention my brother’s wife at some point,” she recalled.
Then, her husband even suggested that she let her brother “sit this dinner out.” Ouch.
But, after considering his input, she actually came around to the idea. So, she ended up calling up her recently widowed brother and actually took back his dinner party invitation!
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Obviously, her brother was not happy about being disinvited. However, she claimed to be shocked by this since she thought her brother was “basically forced” to attend the family events.
Still, she got a healthy dose of reality after her parents found out about the rescinded invite and totally went off on her. In fact, her parents called her behavior utterly disgraceful, claimed that she was unsupportive, and believed that she was totally apathetic to what her brother is going through right now.
She did try to explain her reasoning and how she and her husband figured this would be the best option. Regardless, though, her parents still strongly disagreed.
Instead, they feel like by disinviting her brother, she took away his sense of comfort and support. On top of that, they accused her of being totally selfish and completely disregarding her brother’s loss.
So now, she is pretty much stuck in the middle of her parents and husband. On the one hand, her husband believes that her parents are not taking into consideration how uncomfortable her brother’s sobs make guests feel.
And on the other hand, she has been framed as basically a self-absorbed sister who is ignorant of her brother’s emotional well-being.
In turn, she has no idea what to do. Her parents have since demanded that she apologize to her brother. Still, though, she is not sure if disinviting her brother for the sake of the event was truly a jerky thing to do or not.
Do you think she should care less about the awkwardness of the events or not? Should her brother’s feelings come first? What would you do in her shoes?
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