She Won’t Participate In Her Stepmother’s Wedding Tradition Because She Does Not Want To Share Her Mother’s Necklace With Her Stepsister And Half-Sister
This woman recently got engaged and has been working on all of the exciting– and stressful– facets of wedding planning. Amidst all of that, though, she has also had to deal with her stepmother’s wedding expectations.
More specifically, her stepmother apparently has a family wedding tradition in which all of the sisters wear the same accessory from a family member’s wedding outfit.
“Typically, the item is something from your mother or grandmother’s wedding,” she explained.
“My stepmother and all of her sisters wore their mother’s veil. My stepmother’s nieces all wore their mother’s wedding pearls. You get the picture.”
Anyway, she is obviously the next in line for marriage. So, her stepmother recently sat her, her stepsister, and her half-sister down to decide what their wedding item would be.
She had honestly planned to wear one of her biological mother’s wedding items, though, and was forced to tell her stepmother that she was not looking to wear anything extra.
However, her stepmother kept insisting and said that it was important to keep the family tradition going.
“So I told her it was nice of her to think of me, but it just wasn’t my tradition,” she recalled.
Still, though, the conversation was not over. Instead, it just moved to what piece of her mother’s wedding wardrobe she planned to wear for her own big day– a beautiful necklace.
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And to her surprise, her stepmother suggested that she allow her half-sister and stepsister to wear her own mother’s necklace when their weddings come around.
Her sisters also liked the idea and agreed with her stepmother, too.
They claimed that her mother’s necklace was the most beautiful piece of jewelry they had ever seen and said that they would love to wear it one day.
She was totally against the idea, though, and let her stepmother and sisters know it.
“I said that was not going to happen. That the necklace was a piece of my mom that I could have during my wedding since I cannot have her there,” she said.
Her refusing to participate in the family tradition was not taken lightly, though. Both her stepsister and half-sister were very upset that she did not want to include them.
And on top of that, her stepmother was distraught since she did not embrace the family tradition.
However, she does not feel like the tradition was really hers in the first place . And more importantly, she has no interest in sharing a part of her birth mother with her step or half-sister.
Still, her father wanted to be the family peacekeeper, so he got involved and tried to convince her to participate in the tradition.
He claimed that the gesture would mean a lot to the family. Plus, he believes that it would finally close the relationship gap and help remove the “step” and “half” titles from her stepmother and sisters.
To be frank, though, she does not want those titles removed and told her father hell no.
“I told him no, that I have a mom, and that her being dead doesn’t change that or mean I need to see someone else as my mom, too,” she vented.
Her stepmother just did not get it, though, and claimed that she was acting like a total jerk for rejecting them as her family– especially after her stepmother embraced her as a “true daughter.”
So now, even though the tradition really is not important to her, she has been left wondering if refusing to keep it going would be a really rude thing to do to her stepmother, stepsister, and half-sister.
Do you believe she has an obligation to keep the family tradition going? Does it make sense why she would want to keep that piece of her mother all to herself? If you were in her shoes, what would you decide to do?
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