Katharina Buczek
“It may have come off weird, but I am honestly not used to saying no,” she recalled.
“My psychiatrist said saying no to things is okay, and I should stick up for myself and say it more often.”
Still, she felt bad about rejecting any involvement, so she turned to some friends and her husband for their perspectives on the situation.
Her friends, though, just simply asked if she was in the bridal party or not. And when she revealed she was not a bridesmaid, all of her friends agreed that she had every right to say no to planning.
On top of that, her friends noted how it was kind of bizarre to have someone involved in the bridal shower planning if they were not in the bridal party. In turn, they claimed that she should have just been asked to be a bridesmaid in the first place if she was going to be expected to contribute.
Her husband also agreed with her friends and claimed that it would be a really jerky move to make her do additional planning and decorating and possibly contribute financially when she had not been asked to join the bridal party.
So now, she feels that even being expected to do such things while being a normal guest was over the line. At the same time, though, she is not sure if refusing to pitch in anyway makes her a jerk.
Why do you think her husband’s stepmother wanted her to be involved in the planning? Is it odd to ask a non-bridesmaid to contribute to the events? If you had been in her shoes, would you have refused, too?
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