After His Son Had A Baby, It Made His Wife Want Another One Too Even Though They’re In Their 40s
This 42-year-old man has been married to his 41-year-old wife for 2 decades, and they started dating when they were back in high school.
They ended up getting pregnant when he was 18, and she was 16, which was not planned at all.
Despite the hardship of being teen parents, their son ended up being the best thing to have ever happened to the two of them, and they adore him.
Their son is currently 24, and he just had a baby with his wife a month ago. Several weeks after his son told them that he and his wife were expecting, his wife began dropping hints about how much she missed what it was like to have a child.
She began dropping more and more hints, but he figured she was just thrilled to get to be a grandma, and that was why she was acting like that.
“After a few weeks of the subtle hinting, she asked me if I’d consider having another baby now,” he explained.
“Apparently, she regrets never having another (he’s our only child, FYI). I was honest and told her no. I don’t want to start over with another baby in my 40s. Our kid is 24-years-old and has a baby of his own!”
“We didn’t have more children years ago when we were younger because we spent the first 10 years of his life just trying to get by and then to eventually catch up to our peers. It took us a little longer to finish college, to buy our first home, etc., but we got there eventually. Having a kid so young made us get serious about things like real jobs and motivated us to try to advance in our careers much quicker than we probably would have otherwise.”
When their son was around 10 or 12, they did have a conversation about potentially trying for another child, but they decided that they liked their life the way it was, and they didn’t think it was a good idea to have another child.
Galina Zhigalova – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
And looking at his life now, he and his wife have worked so incredibly hard for everything they have that they’re in an excellent financial situation.
He and his wife are able to finally reap the benefits of their hard work, and they’re still young enough to be able to fully enjoy it all.
He thinks it’s time for him and his wife to focus on themselves, to go on vacations, to buy expensive things, to do everything they ever dreamed of because they finally can.
But, his wife suddenly wanting another baby out of left field is throwing a wrench in those plans, and his wife is accusing him of being a self-centered jerk for not stopping to consider how he feels about another baby.
The thing is, though, she has not talked about having a baby for years, and he can’t get why all of a sudden, this is the most important thing to her.
As for him, he has zero interest in having another baby right now or ever, to be frank.
“I do still love her very much, but this baby issue is driving a giant wedge between us,” he said. “The people who know about it told me months ago that she’d get over it, that she’d meet her new grandchild and be so over the moon about being a grandma that she’d totally forget about wanting to be a mom to her own newborn.”
“Nope, that’s not happened at all. Oh, she loves that baby, but it’s only made her want one of her own even more.”
“She does stay in her lane as grandma. She knows it’s their baby, and she’s not the parent – she’s not a nutcase who wants to abduct her grandchild or tell our son and DIL how to raise their child. I feel like I have to make this clear. She seems perfectly fine mentally, and I don’t believe she’s having any sort of mental or emotional problems bringing this desire one…”
His wife has worn him down so much about a baby that he’s thinking of just giving in to her even though it’s against what he wants.
He doesn’t want his wife to resent him for not agreeing to have a baby, and he thinks she could very well end up like that if he keeps saying no.
“She’d be very happy, and I know that if we did have another kid that I’d love him/her even if it’s not how I pictured this time in my life,” he continued.
“So I’m asking some internet strangers to tell me what you’d do here.”
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