Her Boyfriend Proposed To Her On Christmas In Front Of Her Whole Family So She Felt Pressured To Say Yes, But Then She Returned Her Ring
A woman has been dating her boyfriend for the past 5 years now, and about 4 years in, they began discussing marriage and engagement rings.
Back then, she expressed to her boyfriend that she really would not like him to propose on Christmas, Valentine’s Day, or really any holiday for that matter.
She knows some people would like a holiday proposal, but not her.
Anyway, her boyfriend hasn’t brought up proposing for 6 to 9 months, and she figured it wasn’t going to happen anytime soon.
Her boyfriend was in the middle of battling his ex-wife for custody of their two children over the last several months, which he won, and that contributed to them not really discussing the next step in their relationship.
Throughout the last several weeks, she began noticing her boyfriend making little comments to his daughter about keeping a secret from her, and she thought he probably went and bought an engagement ring.
Several days prior to Christmas, she confronted her boyfriend and said that she thought he was hinting at a proposal, but they hadn’t talked about it in some time.
She asked if they could discuss it then and there, but her boyfriend pretended to have no idea what she was talking about, so she had no choice but to drop it.
“I was still pretty sure he was going to propose, and I was dreading Christmas,” she explained.
Marina Varnava – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“Sure enough, after we finished opening presents, in front of my whole family, he proposed. I was pissed.”
“Everyone was excited, and I was put in the position of having to say yes or risk ruining Christmas. I wanted to walk out of the room but was literally trapped with my whole family surrounding us, with everyone taking pictures and recording the whole thing.”
She did say yes, and she had to spend the rest of the day with a fake smile on her face. She did end up retreating to the bathroom multiple times throughout Christmas day to cry in peace and quiet.
She was so upset because she had confided in her boyfriend that she wanted anything but a holiday proposal.
Additionally, she tried to speak to him about being engaged when she had a feeling he was going to propose on Christmas, and her boyfriend brushed her off.
“While proposing, he even acknowledged that he knows I didn’t want him doing this on a holiday but that he felt it was time and he wanted to propose in my parents’ home since he couldn’t ask my dad for his blessing (he passed away before I met my boyfriend),” she said.
Marina Varnava – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“The next morning, I gave him the ring back and told him I couldn’t marry him because he has no respect for my wants and needs.”
She just can’t get over the fact that he proposed to her on Christmas despite her making it clear that was not what she wanted at all.
She’s left feeling like he really doesn’t know her at all, and she’s upset.
Her whole family has already been talking about her engagement, which also made her unhappy since she wanted it to be a private moment between the two of them, not a family fiasco.
She isn’t sure if she’s an awful person for agreeing to the proposal in the first place and accepting the ring, then giving it back a day later.
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