She Isn’t Inviting Her Stepmom And Stepsister To Her Wedding, Because They Have Never Treated Her Like Family And Made Her Life A Living Hell As A Kid
A 24-year-old girl is set to get married next summer, but two people who will not be on her guestlist are her stepmom and stepsister.
You see, her mom passed away when she was 7-years-old, and her dad then got remarried to her stepmom 4 years after that.
Her stepmom brought along her stepsister from a previous relationship, and her stepsister is 2 years younger than she is.
The problem is that her stepmom and stepsister are the most spoiled, nasty, and entitled individuals that she has ever encountered in her entire life.
“They never treated me like family,” she explained. “(My stepmom) has done everything possible to push me away from the family. I haven’t been in any family pictures since I was 14.”
“I was never allowed on any family vacation/activities. Per (my stepmom’s) request, my dad banned any family members from giving me any gifts for my birthday/holidays. She always hated me. I can’t even remember all the times I cried because of the things she would say to me.”
In contrast, her stepsister was treated as the golden child, and anything her stepsister wanted was handed to her while she had to work her butt off for anything.
Even her school supplies and clothes she had to work for, while her stepsister just got them without having to work for them.
Her stepsister also made it a hobby to break all of her belongings, and then when she got upset, she would get grounded over it.
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“My last straw was when she cut all pictures I had of mom,” she said. “Dad found me crying, and when I showed him the pictures, he told me to let it go.”
“I packed a bag and when to stay with my grandparents. I was 17. Dad never came for me. Never called or texted me either.”
“He reached out to me when I was 20, apologized, and said he wanted to reconnect. I told him if he wants that, he will have to work very hard to earn a relationship with me since he hasn’t been my dad since I was 12, and in 3 years, I haven’t heard from him at all.”
Her dad promised to do anything she wanted in order to be her dad once more, and she allowed him back into her life, but in a small way.
After that, she did not feel though that her dad made enough of an effort, but that all changed a year ago when she graduated from college.
Her dad actually came to her graduation ceremony, and they ended up spending a whole weekend together catching up and really working on their bond.
She says that this was the very first time in 13 years that she felt as if she did have a dad.
Now, this brings us to her upcoming wedding. She wants her dad to be there as just a guest, but she does not want her stepmom or stepsister there at all.
She did let her dad know that she wanted him there but not them and that her grandpa would be the one walking her down the aisle.
Her dad didn’t have a problem with her grandpa being the one to walk her down the aisle, but he did have a problem with her excluding her stepmom and stepsister.
He was furious with her for not wanting to invite them, and he told her that they are his family, so they are her family also and should not be excluded at all.
Her dad mentioned that he wouldn’t come to her wedding if she wasn’t going to include her stepmom and stepsister, so she said that was fine and that it would also spell the end of their relationship since he’s picking them over her all over again.
She then told her dad that he already had a track record of picking them over her, so it wouldn’t be hard for him to walk out of her life once more. She ended up blocking his number too.
“Some family members reached out to me and told me I should be the bigger person, and maybe the wedding could be what’s going to fix our relationship,” she continued.
“My grandparents said that it’s my big day and I shouldn’t have people that make me uncomfortable there.”
Her fiancé and his loved ones believe she should not just ask the people who hurt her the most to be there for her special day just because they are legally her family members.
She’s left wondering if she should put her feelings aside and invite her stepmom and stepsister after all. Do you think she should?
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