Chip Chick
#3: You are not good at digging deeper emotionally in a relationship.
This mixed message occurs when you talk about a desire to get to know someone on a deeper level, but you don’t make any genuine effort to initiate a deep conversation or ask any questions that would require your partner to think and give you a deep response.
Another version of this mixed message is saying you want to take the relationship to the next level and learn more about them on a deeper level. Still, anytime they offer to initiate that conversation, you deflect or find a way out of answering those questions.
When this happens, your partner may question how sincere your desire to get to know them on a deeper level is.
#4: You tend only to be there when it’s convenient for you.
This mixed message occurs when you tell your new partner or anyone else you want to be there for them through thick and thin. However, when times get hard for them, and they reach out to you for support, you aren’t there for them.
You find any excuse to ditch them – whether it be work, school, a family emergency, or any other reason. Furthermore, when you need them, you will find a way to make sure you are free to talk or meet up with your partner or friend.
This makes the relationship one-sided and confusing for the other person. When you do this, you look manipulative.
#5: You say you are all-in but flirt with everyone around you.
This sends a mixed message if you are talking to someone and tell them you wish to be exclusive but then keep flirting with everyone around you.
This behavior confuses your partner as they are not confident about where the relationship stands because your words and actions are not aligned.
