He Overheard His Wife Bribing His Daughter With $100 To Continue Practicing For A Beauty Pageant, So He Accused His Wife Of Vicariously Living Through Their Daughters
This 30-year-old man has a wife named Alyssa, who is 25. And together, they have welcomed four daughters into the world. Their eldest is 6, they have twins who are 4, and their youngest daughter is 2.
Anyway, all of his daughters currently participate in beauty pageants. And over time, he apparently realized that his wife had become a “stage mom.”
“I am not exaggerating when I say we spent probably $100,000 a year on pageants for our daughters,” he revealed.
“I know it is ridiculous, but happy wife, happy life.”
More recently, though, he has started to dislike the fact that his daughters are participating in the beauty competitions. Apparently, his wife enters them in “glitz pageants” and dresses their daughters up to look like they are 35-years-old.
On top of that, he does not believe it is healthy to pit their daughters against each other and have them compete in the same pageants– especially his twin girls.
In fact, he claimed that his wife does not really notice. But, when one of his twins loses to the other, the hurt and upset are evident.
He has attempted to bring these concerns up to his wife, too. Every time, though, his wife reportedly always shuts it down.
Then, his wife will say things like, “Well, I was in pageants since I was 10 months old, and I am just fine. It blessed me with a lot of opportunities, like paying for my college.”
alfa27 – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual child
His wife also claims that one day, their girls will need to learn that you cannot always win in life. So, she thinks pageantry is teaching their kids humility.
He, on the other hand, believes there are much better ways to teach their daughters the same lessons.
What really pushed him over the edge, though, was when he “kind of eavesdropped” on his wife while she was practicing with their eldest daughter recently.
Apparently, his daughter did not want to practice anymore, so his wife actually tried to bribe his daughter with $100 if she kept practicing.
Of course, his daughter ended up taking the money. But he definitely was not okay with his wife using money to influence their kids like that.
So, he later confronted his wife about what happened, but she actually found no issue with the bribery.
In fact, his wife claimed that he just did not understand the situation and the money was only to motivate their daughter.
And at that point, he kind of lost it.
“I accused my wife of living vicariously through our daughters and said that it’s getting out of hand now,” he revealed.
Ever since he shared his true feelings a few days ago, though, his wife has been giving him the cold shoulder. And now, he is actually beginning to feel bad for coming down on her.
“Maye, I don’t understand it, and maybe I am being too much of a dad,” he admitted.
So, he has been left wondering if telling his wife that she lives vicariously through their kids was a jerky thing to do and whether he should apologize or not.
Are pageants damaging to the developing minds of young girls? Does he have a right to feel concerned about his daughter’s mental health? At the same time, did he go about confronting the issue the right way? If you were in his shoes, how would you handle this situation?
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