He Agreed To Go On A Free Family Vacation In Place Of His Honeymoon, And Now His Fiancée Is Furious
Every single year, this 27-year-old guy’s family goes on vacation with their family friends. The tradition started when he was about 11-years-old, and it has continued for almost two decades.
Each year, his parents and the other family take turns planning and paying for the trip. So, this year, it is up to the other family to make all of the arrangements.
In just a few weeks, though, he is getting married to his fiancée. And while planning their wedding, they also planned to go on their honeymoon at the end of the year– even though they have not set any plans in stone yet.
Now, he apparently works for his father– so he is able to take off of work basically whenever he wants.
His fiancée, on the other hand, only has so much paid time off (PTO). So, they were trying to be strategic with their planning around the wedding and honeymoon.
Due to this, he initially told everyone that he probably would have to just skip the trip this year. But then, last week, his “bonus dad” got involved.
“He’s a father figure to me and has been in my life since I was young,” he explained.
“He and my dad went to university and went on to start a business together. No blood relation. Just lots of time and love spent between both families.”
Anyway, his bonus dad wound up going to him and detailing how there was a room booked for both him and his fiancée.
Oleg Breslavtsev – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual people
So, his bonus dad claimed that his fiancée was “more than welcome to come along, too, if she changed her mind.” But, his bonus dad basically insisted that the entirety of both families be together for the trip.
So, he started thinking about it and admitted to believing that nothing could beat the family vacations they all go on.
Apparently, the destinations they visit are always beautiful. Plus, the company his dad and “bonus dad” started is reportedly great.
He also enjoys getting to see loved ones he doesn’t get to visit that often anymore. For instance, his sister now lives out of state and is very busy these days. But, on the trips, he gets to catch up with her.
“The family we travel with also has three sons who are some of my closest friends,” he said.
“And beyond all of that, you can’t really beat an all-expenses paid holiday.”
So, he wound up talking to his fiancée about the trip and telling her about the conversation with his “bonus dad.” And now, she is beyond furious that he did not just shut down the family vacation immediately.
At that point, he apparently tried to tell his fiancée that they weren’t required to participate in family activities all of the time. He also pointed out how this trip could just serve as “part one” of their honeymoon– not the entire thing.
He believes this is perfectly fine, too, because he and his fiancée have not started planning their honeymoon yet. So, there are really no concrete plans being derailed.
He also figured they could just go on their actual honeymoon as a celebration for their first anniversary since they were not planning to go on a trip immediately after their wedding anyway.
And quite frankly, it just seemed like he really wanted to capitalize on the free vacation.
“An expense-free vacation is hard to pass up. We could still have alone time and activities for just the two of us while still participating in family things,” he reasoned.
“It’s not as if honeymoons are all intimacy, all the time. There is also the option for us to have a honeymoon at the end of the year while I go on the trip myself.”
At the same token, he also doesn’t believe his fiancée has the right to assert priority over his relationships with his family and family friends.
“I do love her, but I just don’t agree with the assertion that all other relationships immediately fall to the wayside following marriage. I agree that we’re starting a new family, but that family is being integrated into already formed families,” he vented.
“Things don’t suddenly stop being important to me afterward.”
With his soon-to-be wife still very upset with him, though, he has been left wondering whether agreeing to go on a family vacation in place of his honeymoon was really the wrong thing to do.
Can you understand why he loves these free trips and wants to go this year? At the same time, was it right to agree to the trip without consulting his fiancée first? If the roles were reversed, do you think he would feel differently? How would you suggest he reconcile this situation?
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