Her Boyfriend Didn’t Get Her A Single Thing For Her Birthday, Yet He Still Purchases Presents For His Ex-Wife
This 39-year-old woman has been dating her 53-year-old boyfriend for more than 4 years now. She recently celebrated her birthday, and she was shocked when her boyfriend didn’t get her a single thing.
The man didn’t even go out and get her a card, which is strange because, in the past, she and her boyfriend have always made birthdays special for one another.
What really hurts her the most about her boyfriend forgetting her birthday is that he never misses the opportunity to purchase presents for his ex-wife for every single holiday.
Whether it’s Mother’s Day, Christmas, or his ex-wife’s birthday, her boyfriend is constantly buying gifts.
As for why her boyfriend is so into getting gifts for his ex-wife, he claims it is to “set a good example” for the sons that he has with his ex-wife.
She does think that makes sense, as she does purchase presents for her ex-husband and even his new wife so she can set a nice example for her own son.
“However, we’ve had fights in the past about the extravagance of the gifts he buys for her,” she explained.
“She sends the kids to him with lists of things to get her. The last list included the following: two Ring cameras, a subscription to the Wine-of-the-month club, a Keurig and various pods to go with it, gift cards for her hairdresser, and more.”
“I have a $50/each limit I spend on my ex-husband and his wife, and I feel like his ex’s demands are a bit excessive. My boyfriend admitted to me that he agrees her gift requests are greedy, and he told me that he would only be getting her gift cards going forward.”
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So, it’s easy to see why she’s upset that her boyfriend didn’t even do anything for her birthday, and when she confronted him about it, he had a list of reasons for her to justify his actions. The first reason he came up with was that she has always told him that she’s not exactly big into birthdays.
She has in the past said that birthdays aren’t the most important to her, but that’s because her own family never made an effort on her birthday. To not get her hopes up, she has just gone through life expecting not very much out of her birthdays.
Although she has admitted birthdays aren’t a huge deal, she has never once told her boyfriend that he should forget about her birthday entirely, and they have always made plans together to celebrate, even if it was in a small way.
Another reason her boyfriend claims he forgot about her birthday is that he was not feeling well. On her actual birthday, she did drive over to her boyfriend’s house in the middle of an enormous snowstorm to take care of him and also his dog, as he was super sick.
“I completely understand he was unable to do anything on the day of my birthday, but he never did anything in advance or after that,” she explained.
“My birthday is the same day every year, and he never thought to grab a card? This all happened a month ago, and we’ve discussed it several times, but he is sticking by his excuses and doesn’t seem to understand why this is hurtful to me. Honestly, when it comes to me, he is very thoughtless, and I don’t know why. This is just one of many instances.”
“Is this worth breaking up about? Am I being too dramatic about the situation? I can’t help how hurt I feel. My 12-year-old son asked me what my boyfriend got me for my birthday, and I was humiliated to tell him it was nothing at all.”
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