Her Stepson Doesn’t Want To Move In With His Mother’s New Boyfriend Because He Is “Awful,” But She Won’t Let Her Stepson Live With Her And Her Husband Either
This woman and her husband currently have four children together– whose ages range from 1 to 7-years-old.
Her husband did have a previous marriage, though. So, he has a 15-year-old son with his ex-wife and is known as “dad” to his ex’s older son, who is 20.
Anyway, since getting married, she and her husband have lived in a three-bedroom home with their four kids. And whenever her 15-year-old stepson stays over, he usually sleeps on the couch.
“Despite my stepson not really living with us, my husband is still active in his life and spends lots of time with him,” she said.
However, her husband’s ex– who is her stepson’s mom– also had three younger children with a different ex-husband. And more recently, her husband’s ex just got a new boyfriend.
So, the ex currently lives in a two-bedroom apartment, which means that her stepson gets a bedroom; meanwhile, his younger three siblings share the living room as a bedroom. But, in about a week, the ex will be moving with the new boyfriend– which she thinks is a terrible idea.
“Her taste in men is awful, and her newest boyfriend is no different. And my stepson has awful things to say about him,” she explained.
“Despite this, and despite the fact she has only been dating him for around 10 months (she has known him longer), she is moving in with him.”
Now, the ex’s boyfriend is “somewhat” wealthy and currently resides in an empty four-bedroom house– because all of his kids are adults now.
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So, on the one hand, her husband’s ex moving into that house would be beneficial since the kids would have more space and a yard.
On the flip side, though, there is even more potential risk– since her husband’s ex would be moving the kids into the home of a man that she really has not been dating for very long.
Due to this, her husband tried to urge his ex not to move in with the boyfriend. However, her husband’s ex is pretty dead set on making the move– and she kind of understands why.
“My husband’s ex has some major mental health issues and doesn’t receive any child support from her other ex-husband,” she revealed.
“So I understand to an extent why she needs to rely on a new boyfriend so heavily.”
Just a month ago, though, her stepson wound up getting into an argument with his mom and ultimately stayed at her house for a few nights.
Then, he went to stay at his great grandfather’s house and has been living there ever since– refusing to ever move into his mother’s new boyfriend’s house.
This meant that last week, her stepson ended up asking her husband if he could move in with them. And at the time, she and her husband said they would think it over– even though she is against the idea for a few reasons.
Primarily, she is concerned about space and believes they don’t have enough room to house her stepson.
So, if he moved in, he would either have to share a room with one of his brothers– who are much younger. Or, her stepson would receive his own room while the other four kids are crammed together.
A second reason why she doesn’t want her stepson to move in is that she thinks he is not the easiest teenager to parent. She claimed that he has a bad temper and has “already proved” that he is a bad influence on her younger children.
After she revealed these concerns to her husband, he was not happy with her and did try to get her to change her mind. In the end, though, her husband did tell her stepson that moving in just was not possible right now.
“And if there weren’t other options for him, my answer would be different,” she reasoned.
For instance, she claimed that her stepson’s grandfather has an extra bedroom and already offered for her stepson to stay there for as long as he wants. In the meantime, she also said that she and her husband are beginning to look into other rental home options with four bedrooms. That way, in the future, her stepson could potentially move in with them.
After she and her husband explained all of this to her stepson over dinner a few nights ago, he seemed to understand, too. They told her stepson that he was welcome over whenever he wanted, and he reportedly did not seem upset and said he was comfortable at his grandfather’s house.
The real pushback, though, came from her stepson’s older brother– who is currently serving in the military in another state. Once he found out about the entire situation, he apparently called her husband, accused him of being a total jerk, and blamed the whole arrangement on her.
“Is it not better for my stepson to be in a home where he has his own space and is still close to both parents?” she vented.
In spite of having that personal belief, though, she has still been left wondering whether not wanting her stepson to move into her home makes her a real jerk or not.
Do you think her concerns are valid or not? Regardless, is it fair for her 15-year-old stepson to feel displaced and forced to live at his grandfather’s home? If you were in her shoes, how would you handle this situation?
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