She Still Hasn’t Met Her Nephew, Who Was Born Two Months Ago, Because She Resents Her Sister-In-Law For Choosing The Same Baby Name She Previously Picked Out For Her Daughter
When this woman had her first daughter back in 2015, she and her husband decided on a name they absolutely loved: Carter.
And in the back of her mind, Carter worked perfectly with the name she had planned for her next daughter– Cameron. She just always adored those two names together.
Apparently, she never kept this name idea a secret, either.
So, by the time 2022 came along, and she finally got pregnant again, she shared the exciting news with her close family right away. But, it just so happened that only four or five days later, her sister-in-law found out she was expecting, too.
And after they found out that her sister-in-law was also pregnant, her husband decided to sort of jokingly text in a group chat with himself, her brother, and her sister-in-law.
“Just don’t use the name Cameron. She has loved that name for years,” her husband messaged.
Now, her brother never wound up replying to that text. But she thinks he might not have even read the message since he has a tendency to do that.
Her sister-in-law, on the other hand, did respond and said, “We’re staying out of this. We have our names picked already.”
Anyway, a few weeks later, she sadly had a miscarriage while 11 weeks along in her pregnancy. So, it became clear that she wouldn’t be having a second child for a bit– or naming her baby Cameron.
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But, throughout her sister-in-law’s pregnancy, her brother and sister-in-law kept talking about three or four names they had picked out for their son. And not once was the name Cameron ever mentioned as a possibility.
“Even the day before her scheduled c-section, they were still torn between two entirely different names,” she recalled.
Yet, the day after her nephew was born, her brother and sister-in-law announced that they had chosen the name “Cameron.”
So, she felt both blindsided and completely disrespected. To her, it just seemed as though her feelings did not matter to her brother or sister-in-law.
Now, she did reflect on what they might have been thinking when they chose that baby’s name.
“I kind of assume their thought process was, ‘Well, she didn’t end up having a baby, so we can use the name,'” she explained.
Regardless of that, though, her brother and sister-in-law never bothered telling any family members about that plan before the birth of her nephew– presumably because they knew her parents would say something. After all, everyone knew she had loved that name for multiple years.
So, while she knows that she can’t exactly “reserve” a baby name, she just cannot understand why her brother and sister-in-law didn’t pick literally any other name. Or at least one of the names they had discussed for months.
Anyway, ever since that happened, she actually has not been in contact with her brother or sister-in-law. And quite frankly, she has no intentions of trying to reconcile the situation with her sister-in-law anytime soon.
“I previously thought of her as a best friend, and now I see her true colors,” she vented.
Due to all of the tension, though, she and her husband still have not met their nephew– even though he was born two whole months ago.
But quite frankly, she really just is not interested in meeting the baby because the only thing she feels is resentment.
And now, she’s been left wondering whether feeling so angry about her nephew’s name– and refusing to meet him over it– makes her a jerk or not.
Do you think it was right of her brother and sister-in-law to use the name “Cameron” after they were well aware she planned to use it? Does she have a right to feel resentful– especially after having a miscarriage? At the same time, do you think she should at least meet her nephew? What would you do in this situation?
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