Her In-Laws Treat Her Like A Live-In Maid Because She’s Expected To Do All Of The Cooking And Cleaning While They Relax With Her Husband
This 26-year-old woman is currently married to her husband, who is 27. And unfortunately, her father-in-law encountered some health issues and needed some help around the house.
That’s why she and her husband initially agreed to move in with her husband’s parents to help out.
Since then, her father-in-law’s health has gotten better. But, there are still certain things that her father-in-law cannot do anymore, which her husband has taken over.
Quite frankly, though, she is ready to move out. And she and her husband have even discussed it.
“But my in-laws are very resistant to the idea, stating that there is plenty of room here, and they don’t know what they would do without us,” she said.
To give some context on the living arrangement, she and her husband are not currently paying her in-laws to live in their house. And apparently, this was actually her in-laws’ decision.
Instead, they always pay for groceries and several household bills– including electricity, TV, and internet– since the house does not have a mortgage.
In terms of responsibilities, she also handles all of the household cleaning, cooking, and pet care– arranging veterinary appointments and taking all of her in-laws’ animals to and from the vet.
“I do work from home, so this is easier for me as I am able to be flexible. And we also pay half of any house modifications or upgrades as my in-laws say, ‘It’ll be your house one day,'” she explained.
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But recently, she has been getting seriously fed up with this whole living arrangement. After all, her in-laws get to come home and relax as soon as they finish work.
She, on the other hand, gets off work and is immediately expected to clean and cook without any help.
Even on the weekends, she spends half of her day cleaning the entire house while her in-laws are out doing whatever they want.
So, just last week, the whole situation finally boiled over. It all began when she started to feel very sick, actually the worst she had ever felt, and all she wanted was to get some sleep.
Yet, around dinner time one evening, her mother-in-law decided to wake her up and ask when she was getting up to cook dinner.
Now, at the time, she did not want to start an argument. That’s why she just got up and cooked dinner for everyone.
“But as I was in the kitchen, struggling not to pass out, the three of them sat watching a movie, waiting for me to bring in their food,” she recalled.
Still, she did not say anything about it at first. Rather, she waited until she and her husband were alone to bring up all of her concerns and frustrations.
At that point, her husband did apologize and offered to help her out more, which she gladly accepted. Yet, the very next day, the same pattern repeated itself.
She was forced to drag herself out of bed to cook dinner and serve the food to her in-laws. Then, her mother-in-law even had the nerve to say, “Oh, you look truly awful! Poor you! Oh, by the way, later, would you mind giving everywhere an extra clean? I don’t want to get whatever you have.”
After her mother-in-law said that, she could not take it anymore and wound up snapping.
First, she accused her in-laws of treating her like a live-in maid and not even caring about her as a person aside from the services she always provides. Plus she pointed out how she would have never been in the communal areas if she had not been disturbed and asked to cook.
Finally, she told her in-laws that they could have managed to make one meal by themselves while she was sick.
But rather than standing up for her, too, her husband just sat there in silence the whole time. And later, he claimed that she should have brought the topic up more thoughtfully when she was not “so emotional.”
Still, while she sort of agreed with her husband, she reasoned that she was just feeling sick and stressed out.
Regardless, ever since she blew up on her in-laws, absolutely nothing has changed. Her in-laws are still expecting a lot from her, and her mother-in-law just gave her the silent treatment for a couple of days.
So now, she’s been left wondering whether accusing her in-laws of treating her like a live-in maid was really out of line or not.
Is it fair that all of the household responsibilities have been placed on her? Is this living arrangement healthy or sustainable for her marriage? How would you handle this situation?
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