His Wife Is Happy With Their Life Right Now Just The Way It Is, But He Dreams Of Having So Much More, Which He Feels Is Hurting Their Relationship
This 30-year-old man has been married to his wife, who is 26, for about two years. And since tying the knot, their largest arguments have always been over finances.
They currently live in a moderate cost-of-living area and make a total of $140,000 per year.
He and his wife also own a home, which he purchased a few years ago while he was still single.
While the neighborhood is not “terrible,” though, he also believes it’s nothing special. So, while it’s not the worst area, he believes it is nowhere near the kind of neighborhood he would like him and his wife to be living in.
His wife, on the other hand, appears to have a different perspective on their living situation.
For context, now that the weather is warming up, he and his wife have been going on daily walks throughout their neighborhood.
And yesterday, while they took their dog out for a stroll, his wife revealed how their life was everything she had ever wanted.
After all, she is married, has a husband, and gets to walk through her neighborhood with their dog– and she loves dogs. Plus, his wife hopes to someday walk with their future kids and believes they are really living the “American dream.”
Now, he claimed that his wife had definitely already said that on various occasions in the past. So, he admitted that she is much more thankful for their life than he is.
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“She said she has a stable job, a husband, a house, and a dog she loves,” he recalled. “And if we have kids in the future, even better.”
While his wife is fine with where they are financially at right now, though, he really wants more. He hopes to make more money and seriously stresses himself out with finances– getting caught up in their savings, investing, and his dream of buying a nicer home.
“I also get daily Zillow updates of homes that I want to eventually buy and feel hopeless that I’ll never get it because of how fast the home prices are increasing compared to our wages,” he revealed.
So, even though his wife is content if they live in their current home for the rest of their lives, he simply is not. He realizes that he is lucky to even have a home right now. However, even at the time he purchased it, he knew this house was not where he wanted to stay for the next 30 years of his life.
And due to this disconnect in perspective, he believes his desire for more is hurting his relationship with his wife.
“Because she sees me get stressed about money, and I can get very controlling of our finances, which in turn stresses her out, too,” he vented.
So, he is honestly not sure how to handle this situation to make both himself and his wife happy.
Is it a bad thing that his wife is grateful and content with where they’re at? At the same time, does he have a right to want more? Does it sound like they need to communicate more about their future plans? Do you think they both can find a way to feel satisfied?
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