She Thinks Her Best Friend Is Making A Huge Mistake By Buying An Apartment With Her Boyfriend, But She Isn’t Sure What To Do
This 26-year-old woman has a 27-year-old best friend named Carlie, who she has known for 19 years.
And obviously, over the past nearly two decades, they have been through a lot together– always leaning on each other for support.
About a year and a half ago, however, Carlie got her first boyfriend. But, their relationship was initially broken off within the first two weeks because, apparently, her friend’s boyfriend had a ton of red flags, and she encouraged Carlie to end it.
The first red flag was how, on their second date, the guy claimed Carlie would have to sell her car when they moved in together. That way, he and Carlie would get to share one car between them.
After that, Carlie’s boyfriend claimed Carlie could only go visit her if he thought Carlie could afford it.
Finally, the guy told her friend that she would be going to hell for “living in sin” since she currently lives with her fiancé but is not yet married.
Anyway, all of that was said within the first two weeks of Carlie’s relationship– which set off serious alarm bells in her head.
But unfortunately, after breaking up with the guy, Carlie still got back together with her ex. And ever since then, only more drama has unfolded.
Apparently, Carlie is no longer allowed to visit her alone since Carlie’s boyfriend always has to be there and control what her friend is doing.
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Then, one time when Carlie did visit her, Carlie’s boyfriend got upset because her fiancé went shopping with her friend while she was still at work.
“I’ve been with my fiancé for seven years, and the thought did not even cross my mind,” she said.
Carlie was also given an ultimatum at one point– being forced to choose between her or the guy. This happened when she and Carlie had plans, but Carlie’s boyfriend wanted to hang out and literally said, “Make a choice.”
So, she bluntly admitted to just not liking Carlie’s boyfriend. More recently, though, she has become genuinely concerned for her best friend’s wellbeing.
For context, Carlie’s boyfriend currently lives at home with his parents; meanwhile, Carlie lives on her own in an apartment.
But with rental prices continuing to rise, her best friend planned to move back to her parent’s house at some point.
Carlie’s boyfriend recently got a new job about four months ago, though, and it is reportedly a well-paying position. Carlie has also had a job that has paid decently for the past three years.
That’s why Carlie’s boyfriend recently suggested that they just purchase an apartment together. However, she knows that the apartments in Carlie’s area are extremely expensive.
“And Carlie’s boyfriend has never lived out of the home, so he has never had to do his own washing, clean for himself, or buy his own groceries as his mom does it all for him,” she added.
Plus, before Carlie’s boyfriend suggested buying an apartment together, Carlie wound up offering to have her boyfriend move into her current apartment. That way, they could live together while he helped Carlie out with the rising cost of living.
However, Carlie’s boyfriend initially rejected that idea and claimed he didn’t want to live with her best friend just yet.
But only two months later, her best friend’s boyfriend is somehow ready to go full-force and buy an apartment with Carlie– which she thinks is fishy.
Carlie and her boyfriend have even applied for loans already without telling anyone in her family. Instead, the pair are just waiting for approval to move forward.
And honestly, she is very worried that the arrangement will end in disaster.
“I’ve told her I think she should rent first to even see if she can live with him and what it is like,” she vented.
Carlie didn’t see the issue, though, and claimed that idea was “plan B” in case they were not approved for a loan.
So now, even though she thinks her best friend is making a huge mistake, she isn’t sure if she should try to get Carlie to change her mind or just leave the situation alone.
Does it sound like she’s made it clear to Carlie how she feels about the guy? At what point is it up to Carlie to make the decision for herself? Do you think she should keep trying or let it go? What would you do?
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