She And Her Husband Want To Ask For Their $400 Baby Shower Gift Back After Their Friend Suffered A Miscarriage
This woman is currently married, and her husband has had a long-time family friend named Jen for a while.
And even though she and Jen are not exactly close, they are always friendly whenever they run into each other.
That’s why, back when Jen announced she was pregnant with her first child, her husband was happy to purchase a gift from Jen’s baby shower registry.
The item was reportedly pretty expensive, too, costing between $200 and $300.
“I had no issue with the gift or how much he spent,” she recalled.
“It was a nice item to gift Jen, and we were excited for her to grow her family with her then-boyfriend, now-husband.”
After a few years passed by, however, Jen and her husband became pretty high earners– both making over six figures per year.
Yet, when Jen announced a second pregnancy, she and her husband received another baby shower registry which was reportedly filled with a ton of expensive items.
Now, she was taken aback for two reasons. First, she found it odd that Jen would announce the pregnancy and ask for gifts while still in the first trimester.
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Additionally, she found it strange that Jen opted to send out a registry since she assumed Jen would still have most of the items from the first baby shower.
“I didn’t think people usually did full-blown baby showers and registries after their first,” she said.
Regardless, she just left the gift up to her husband– letting him do whatever he wanted. Still, she made sure to mention her surprise about the second baby and pointed out how Jen had already gotten brand new stuff not that long before.
Despite that, her husband still opted to spend about $400 on a gift for Jen’s second baby. And apparently, she was fine with that.
But then, just a few weeks later, Jen suffered a traumatic miscarriage. And while she did not discuss specifics, Jen found out that the loss likely meant she would never be able to carry any future pregnancies to term.
So, Jen was understandably devastated. And even though she was not exactly close with Jen, she knew the situation was extremely sad, and her “heart hurt” for the other mom.
Since Jen’s miscarriage was now a few months ago, however, she and her husband have something else on their mind– what to do about the second baby shower gift.
She knows that the present they bought for Jen cannot be used for Jen’s older child. But she also realizes that asking Jen to return the gift would probably be cruel. Not to mention the return window has probably closed, anyway.
“I’m also not sure if Jen’s going to keep trying to have more kids– very risky for the baby and herself– and it seems incredibly insensitive to ask,” she added.
“Plus, Jen may not have decided yet.”
But while she acknowledged that asking Jen to pay them back for the gift seemed cruel, too, she claimed that $400 was still a lot of money– even if she and her husband are “decently high earners.”
She believes it would be one thing if Jen was able to get some use of the gift. If that were the case, she would look at it as money well-spent.
Although, if the present will just sit in Jen’s attic in a box for years to come, she doesn’t think that’s worth it.
That’s why, now, she’s actually considering asking Jen for the baby shower gift back.
“Ideally, we could get our money back somehow, although it’s probably too late,” she revealed. “And if we can’t, then I would at least like to gift it to someone else who can use it. I feel awful saying that, but it’s how I feel.”
Since this is obviously such a sensitive topic, though, she does not want to pressure Jen into anything if she is not ready.
So, she and her husband have been left wondering whether asking Jen to return the baby shower gift after suffering a miscarriage would make them real jerks or not.
Would it be insensitive to ask for the present back? Is it up to her or her husband to figure out if Jen is “using” the gift, or does it not matter at all? What would you do in this situation?
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