A Guy Offered Her A Massage Before They Even Went On A First Date, And That Did Not Sit Well With Her
This 25-year-old woman recently matched with a 28-year-old guy on a dating app who is reportedly pretty smart. In fact, he is pursuing his Ph.D. right now, and she is also pursuing higher education.
So, she felt like they were on similar life paths and planned to meet up with him one evening. However, the day before they were supposed to go out on a first date, the guy sent a message that completely threw her off.
They first began texting and talking about how graduate education can be really difficult. Then, out of nowhere, the guy mentioned how he was very good at giving massages and could give her one to help her relax.
“But I have never met him, and even the idea of a stranger already thinking about massaging me just didn’t sit right with me,” she said.
She did clarify how, if the guy had made that comment after their first date, then she probably would have felt differently.
But it was before they even met in person for the first time, and the idea of meeting a stranger who was “ready to massage her” just made her feel uncomfortable.
“It also creates more tension for the first date,” she added.
“Plus, there are tons of other things he could have said about physical affection other than massage, which is very intimate.”
That’s why she felt like the guy’s comment was pretty risky and overstepped a boundary.
sepy – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
So, she wound up reaching out to the guy and letting him know that the massage remark just did not sit well with her. Afterward, she wished him well, and he just unmatched her on the dating app.
After this whole situation unfolded, though, she decided to confide in a friend about what happened. But apparently, they just thought that the guy was probably trying to be harmlessly flirtatious, and the attempt failed.
And ever since hearing her friend’s opinion, she’s been second-guessing her interpretation of the guy’s comment and has been searching for other opinions on the flirting attempt.
Do you agree that the guy was just trying to flirt or not? Regardless, can suggesting a massage come off as creepy if you haven’t even met a guy first? How would you have reacted in her situation? Did she do the right thing by asserting her boundaries and wishing him well?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
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