She Admitted That She Didn’t Like Her Best Friend’s Wedding, And She Was The Maid Of Honor
This 28-year-old woman was the maid of honor at her best friend’s wedding a few years ago. So, she was quite involved in the wedding planning process– helping to arrange the bachelorette party, prepare games for the reception, and deliver a speech at the event.
“Basically, I was there for them every step of the way because I value them both as friends,” she recalled.
However, the process was not always easy for her since she struggles with mental illnesses. They are particularly related to social anxiety, which makes anything that involves strangers or having to “perform” in front of others extremely difficult.
On top of that, she is reportedly overweight and hypersensitive to clothing. That’s why getting dressy clothes for her friend’s wedding was an absolute nightmare.
She apparently broke down crying on various occasions leading up to the big day. And in order to prepare for wearing unfamiliar clothes at her friend’s wedding, she actually “trained” herself by starting to wear her outfit weeks and months in advance.
“It’s difficult to explain, but basically, I get panic attack-like symptoms and crying fits, and I just want to rip the clothes off my body,” she said.
So, the idea of attending a big wedding with a formal dress code and a ton of people in attendance is quite terrifying for her. Her best friend knew about these struggles, too.
Yet, she decided to accept the role of maid of honor anyway, simply because she loved her best friend. And she claimed that she never once considered backing out or not going to the event.
More recently, however, she and her own boyfriend have decided to tie the knot. And given her challenges with large groups, they opted to just have a small get-together.
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They did not want to get married in a church or even have a proper ceremony. Instead, they just decided to sign the papers and have a garden party with some of the most important people in their life– with no alcohol, no dress code, and no late partying.
Ever since she filled her best friend in on her wedding plan, though, she has encountered a ton of pushback.
Her best friend keeps pointing out how she will only have her “big day” once and claims that a bunch of people will be disappointed if they are not invited to her nuptials.
“Think about how important this is going to be for your parents!” her best friend added.
However, she just started to feel like her best friend was just getting offended over the fact that she did not ask for help planning a bachelorette party or picking out any activities or anything.
So, she wound up saying her best friend was welcome to help out with the food but that nothing else was needed beyond that.
Anyway, some time passed by after that. And eventually, her best friend approached her about her wedding again. But this time, her friend claimed that their wedding was so much fun and asked why she did not want the same time for herself.
At that point, she decided to finally come clean and tell the truth about how she felt at her best friend’s wedding.
“I answered that as beautiful as their wedding was, it just was not for me, and I did not like it since the whole thing severely stressed me out, confronted my biggest fears, and was overall just super difficult for me,” she revealed.
Unfortunately, her best friend still did not understand her perspective and wound up just getting upset with her. Then, her friend left and has not spoken to her ever since.
One of her mutual friends has since reached out about the situation, though, and asked her why she even agreed to be her friend’s maid of honor in the first place if she knew she was going to hate the process.
“But I feel like that’s beside the point,” she vented.
“My friend knows about my problems. I knew I was going to struggle, but I did it for her and would do it again because it was a great honor, and that’s just what friends do.”
Nonetheless, since her friend is still mad at her, she’s been left wondering whether admitting that she didn’t like her best friend’s wedding made her a real jerk or not.
Does it make sense why she wanted to be there for her best friend even though the wedding was not her cup of tea? Is she allowed to have different preferences for her own big day? Do you think her perspective maybe just came out wrong when she was speaking to her friend? How can she reconcile this situation?
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