You Can’t Include Everyone In Your Wedding Party, And Here’s How You Can Go About Letting Someone Know They Don’t Have A Role In The Gentlest Way
Although planning a wedding is fun and exciting, the process can definitely have its moments of stress and struggle.
With so many different little things to manage and think about, there are bound to be some bumps along the way.
Determining the members of your wedding process is not something that is exempt from stress. There are a lot of things to consider, even in this one small part of the ceremony.
How big of a wedding party do you and your partner want to have? Should you have an even number of members? Should it consist of only family members?
If you have a large family or friend group, you are likely going to feel like you are letting someone down if you do not include them in your wedding party.
How do you gently break this news to them?
Firstly, determine whether there even needs to be a conversation. In some instances, it might not be necessary.
For example, an old college friend or a distant second cousin that you hardly talk to will probably understand not being included in your wedding party, so unless they ask you about it directly, you might not need to explicitly tell them.
If you do feel like the conversation needs to be had, it’s important, to be honest with the person you’re breaking the news to. Giving them logical reasoning will lead to better chances of understanding, and they will probably not take the decision personally.
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It’s also more respectful to have this type of conversation in person, if possible, rather than through a text or a phone call.
Show the person that they are important to you by giving them another role within your wedding. Maybe this person would be a great usher, photographer, or toast giver. If there’s just not a place available, make the time to spend time with them before the wedding.
Whether it’s a lunch date or asking them to help you figure out your flower arrangements, making them feel important to you will help them to realize that they do not need to take your wedding party decision to heart.
In the end, all the decisions about your wedding should be made by you and your partner.
A good friend or family member will be understanding of any choices you make when planning this event.
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